My husband and I average “making love” 2 to 3 times a week. I wouldn’t mind making love more often but my husband doesn’t want to. I used to initiate making love more often but it always turns out awkward. Either he turns me down, or we make love and it was just going through the motions/emotionless, or he can’t get stimulated/hard. When he is in the mood and initiates making love it is great!!
It is so hard for me not to take this personally when I feel rejected or worst of all when you doesn’t become aroused with all my efforts. I already struggle with self esteem and feeling attractive/sexy enough for my husband, even though he reassures me that I am beautiful and that he loves my body (what else is he supposed to say). I know that it is probably really embarrassing for him to not be able to perform but he is really good about blowing stuff off and saying, oh well. I don’t give him a hard time and try and act like it doesn’t bother me. After this happens, I usually go to sleep with horrible thoughts on how embarrassed I feel that I am not attractive enough and I don’t excite my husband enough for him to be able to perform. Maybe my expectations are too high (I am known for that).
Has anyone else run into this situation? How do you handle it?
It is so hard for me not to take this personally when I feel rejected or worst of all when you doesn’t become aroused with all my efforts. I already struggle with self esteem and feeling attractive/sexy enough for my husband, even though he reassures me that I am beautiful and that he loves my body (what else is he supposed to say). I know that it is probably really embarrassing for him to not be able to perform but he is really good about blowing stuff off and saying, oh well. I don’t give him a hard time and try and act like it doesn’t bother me. After this happens, I usually go to sleep with horrible thoughts on how embarrassed I feel that I am not attractive enough and I don’t excite my husband enough for him to be able to perform. Maybe my expectations are too high (I am known for that).
Has anyone else run into this situation? How do you handle it?