02-02-2012, 12:13 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Re: Today Its Funny to Me
Have you read "The Married Man Sex Primer?" I will agree with on thing. Getting mad at her refusals won't work. However I do think it is possible for some people to change. We are having much more sex now than ever before. Partly, it was the things I learned in MMSL, the other part was realizing that my wife needed to feel loved before she could feel intimate. The book, "The Five Love Languages" helped with that. I also learned that many women have "responsive desire" meaning that they don't think about sex all that much and even start sex in neutral. But they get into it once they start.
Now, I don't know if any of that applies to you. You can find the book and website for MMSL here: Married Man Sex Life
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)