Wow. Your post describes our relationship to a T! My husband cares about sex I don't at all. We have been married 2years. I am 27 and he is 31. He and I are attractive, together we make 300K per year. We have no financial issues and no kids (thank God)
I am very energetic and so is he but when it comes to sex I'm out on that one- BORING!!!!!!
Here is how I think...
Before we got married I knew I would lose all sexual interest and desire for him
. So we came to an agreement that I would put out, no questions asked 3 times a week. Big mistake on my husband's part for agreeing to this (although he said he didn't think it was going to be so bad because I was fine in bed while we were dating). Well it is working so so. I do get annoyed that I have to have sex when I don't want to but figure it's part of the whole marriage thing.
My friends can't believe I do this. If you knew me, by looking at me you would think I'm a tiger in bed. I'm very attractive and care how I look. I love to dance hence I was professional dancer. Only thing is I'm not a tiger in bed and sometimes categorize myself as asexual (especially now that I'm married). I am a very logical person and hardly emotional. Romantic gestures, porn, etc does not make me horny at all! I know what makes me horny and it's impossible to get while being married....
I'm interested in sex at the beginning of a relationship...I would say the first 3-6 months then I begin to lose interest. This started after I turned 24years. To tell you the truth after a bit....sex is the same with everyone. The passion wears off and so does my sex drive....but it doesn't bother me actaully. I find other things more fun like shopping, traveling, etc. It's just that my husband doesn't function that way. He does care about sex...blah!
another factor that I don't like sex is that I see him every single day! I don't get how you can possibly get horny when you see the person every day.
I have told him that I don't get horny from him ever because I see his **** wayyyy too much. There is no room for desire at all. He said okay then when would you want it? I said considering the fact that I see your face every single day I would want it 1-2 times a month. He said he cant do that so we are still sticking to the 3 times a week where I just lay there and he tells me what position...LOL. I can't believe he would rather have sex with me not being interested then jerking off. I tell him to go do that and leave me alone LOL.
what do you think? LIke your wife I'm tame in bed too and don't like my husband going down on me. It's not because I'm ashame of sex or my body. It's because I don't like to feel out of control! I'm a control freak only when it comes to myself. I have had two orgasms and I never want to have them again!
Also I am resentful over the fact that my husband uses me to get himself off, that's how I see it. We might have to renegotiate the agreement. He doesn't like jerking off which has made it my problem and now I have to have sex with him 3 times a week!!! for the most part I can deal with that.