Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
Scenario: Your spouse asks to snap a nude photo of you in a provocative position so he/she can view it. Maybe because spouse doesn't want to bother you for intercourse that night to give you a break or so and he/she doesn't want to look at porn etc..
1) Are you ok with it?
2) If uncomfortable, why?
3) If you are uncomfortable with the whole thing, what if you two agree to have it deleted later that night or next day?
4) If uncomfortable rather being nude for a pic or simply being in a provocative position in front of spouse, would you rather snap it yourself and then give it to spouse?
5)How would you feel if your spouse asks to do this often due to a higher sex drive? So you will get a break.
6) Females: If you are fine with this, are you comfortable showing everything, or just topless, etc?
7) Females: Are there times were you would desire to have a nude photo of husband?
I asked my wife a couple of times while I was away long term, she was extremely hesitant but did a few times. Now I don't ask so she won't be uncomfortable. But I'm unsure how I would feel if my spouse were to ask me. I'm sure that if it were really important to her, I probably would if she were to delete later.
Please forgive if I was too straight forward with the questions.
I took a photo of myself and text hubby while he was at work. I quickly erased it from my phone, due to nosey kids in the house. It served its purpose.lol. It was my little surprise to him, just to mix things up a bit.
I'm not turned on visually by photos. Once my hubby walks in the room, then I'm turned on with or without clothes on!! I love his high drive. It works for the both of us!
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Isn't this just tech 101 in marriage? In marriage there are no boundaries, that is why we are married? My DH and I never hesitate to snap and send.....why is this an issue
He sees the real thing up close and personal all the time so I have no problem sending him a picture of any part of my body. He's sent pictures of himself to me too.
This is the man that's seen me give birth more than once. There's not a whole heck of a lot of modesty after that! LOL
Isn't this just tech 101 in marriage? In marriage there are no boundaries, that is why we are married? My DH and I never hesitate to snap and send.....why is this an issue
Hi Anna. Thanks for responding.
Well... I wish my wife would think like you... There shouldn't be any boundaries in marriage within reason. I think some of it would have to do her being embarrassed. I'm sure other folks would probably feel embarrassed for whatever reason. Although, spouses shouldn't feel embarrassed being naked in front of each other. I don't think my wife has any issue be naked in front of me, but I think something about the camera causes it.
This brings up another issue. Talking about boundaries and feeling comfortable in front of spouse - you know, I think my wife would feel embarrassed to even make sexual facial expressions in front of me even if joking around. That's says a hell of a lot about her issues and our relationship. It honestly makes me angry.
As for me, like I said before: if it were the other way around and it was important to for my wife to have nude pics of me, I would give in and get over any embarrasement. Heck, if it enhances our sex life, I'll be snapping away at myself and sending them to her all day.
He sees the real thing up close and personal all the time so I have no problem sending him a picture of any part of my body. He's sent pictures of himself to me too.
This is the man that's seen me give birth more than once. There's not a whole heck of a lot of modesty after that! LOL
I can't remember the last time I've been up close and personal.
Anyway...I hear you bubbly girl. I'm sure she probably has a little modest.
A few times when joking around, I was like bang!!...here you go..and she would get angry. That in turn made me angry because I wouldn't respond like that to her -to the contrary I would get turned on by her joking with me like that. Just use your imagination...I don't want to make anyone vomit.
Well... I wish my wife would think like you... There shouldn't be any boundaries in marriage within reason. I think some of it would have to do her being embarrassed. I'm sure other folks would probably feel embarrassed for whatever reason. Although, spouses shouldn't feel embarrassed being naked in front of each other. I don't think my wife has any issue be naked in front of me, but I think something about the camera causes it.
This brings up another issue. Talking about boundaries and feeling comfortable in front of spouse - you know, I think my wife would feel embarrassed to even make sexual facial expressions in front of me even if joking around. That's says a hell of a lot about her issues and our relationship. It honestly makes me angry.
As for me, like I said before: if it were the other way around and it was important to for my wife to have nude pics of me, I would give in and get over any embarrasement. Heck, if it enhances our sex life, I'll be snapping away at myself and sending them to her all day.
sorry..hope I didn't cause anyone to puke.
Do you compliment her enough? Try to compliment her on atleast 2 parts.....really get into it..like your breasts naturally lay so perfect , how do you do it? or your hair is so Damm seductive with the curls over your shoulder, how do you do it , or your sweet calfs are every womans dream and every mans..
My husband took pics of me giving him a blow job. He also has pics of his penis in my butt. Sorry for tmi. Also has taken pics of him coming on my tits. It is ok. I don't really like it. But he does. It has only been a few times. And I wish it were to give me a break one day. Sex is daily in the Jersey Cop's house. It is going somewhere, my girlie, my butt or my mouth.
You know what bossesgirl26 you are are great wife..Your Dh has a really tough job as a cop, right? Thank God for you and for him...you are not alone in your tmi.....my Dh has done the very same thing, taping us during bj's, sex and so on....Oh yes he cums on my tits, ass and face all the time...but u know what I am so glad he enjoys me and I enjoy it too. I do not find it degrading or nasty in any way. We are married and very sexual. I know sometimes sex is a chore but take him out to dinner/bar and talk about how you feel , I sense you have hard feelings toward him...Praise God, as a cop, he comes home to you to fulfill his fantisies........you are not alone sister......
Do you compliment her enough? Try to compliment her on atleast 2 parts.....really get into it..like your breasts naturally lay so perfect , how do you do it? or your hair is so Damm seductive with the curls over your shoulder, how do you do it , or your sweet calfs are every womans dream and every mans..
You wouldn't believe how much I used to compliment her both sexually and no sexually. I didn't hold back - I am a very sexual person, and I wanted her to feel sexy and know it with confidence.
You wouldn't believe how much I used to compliment her both sexually and no sexually. I didn't hold back - I am a very sexual person, and I wanted her to feel sexy and know it with confidence.
But do you zero in on specifics...I know, I know it's so mundane, but when a wife hears about what make her stand out physically and sexually to others, we just light up like a firefly......like, gosh your green eyes always make me hard, or your dimples just melt me, or your sweet walk makes me weak.......get it....conquer your woman with compliments...it's like food to us..
Thank you for your kind words. I don't have hard feelings toward my husband. My dh rocks my world emotionally, physically everything. He is the sexiest man on the planet, to me ofcourse. He runs a tight ship. He is the def the Head of our House, the disciplinarian, the Alpha Male, old school, very dominant one. But as crazy as it sounds I love all this about him. He has expectations of me as a wife and mother. We both have very defined roles. And if I screw up, it is my ass, literally. BUT on the other hand, my husband absolutely adores me, spoils me, gives me TLC and is very protective of me. All the things I wanted in a man. I want to be taken care of, not because I need him to, but I want him to. Sometimes I wish we could take a break one day from sex. Because when he gets off duty, he wants and expects it. Often I am in bed and exhausted from doing my house chores, taking care of three kids, doing errands for husband, I have to workout three times per week, iron, keep suv completely cleaned out, even though toting around kids and junk all day, oh and cook dinner, on and on and on. My husband does all bills/finances. But I never complain about the sex. I know how important it is to my husband. I know how much he loves and adores me. and it makes me feel good that he still wants me. He works hard.
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why is this an issue
There shouldn't be any boundaries in marriage within reason. I think some of it would have to do her being embarrassed. I'm sure other folks would probably feel embarrassed for whatever reason. Although, spouses shouldn't feel embarrassed being naked in front of each other. I don't think my wife has any issue be naked in front of me, but I think something about the camera causes it.
This brings up another issue. Talking about boundaries and feeling comfortable in front of spouse - you know, I think my wife would feel embarrassed to even make sexual facial expressions in front of me even if joking around. That's says a hell of a lot about her issues and our relationship. It honestly makes me angry.
