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Old 02-14-2012, 10:54 PM   #1 (permalink)
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For those of you in a sexless marriage, what if anything do you do to note the Day?
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Old 02-15-2012, 04:37 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Well I think that answers your question..
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Old 02-15-2012, 05:53 AM   #3 (permalink)
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i wouldnt give my wife the time of day, nevermind acknowledge valentines day. and i get the same treatment back so its a wash
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Old 02-15-2012, 07:54 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I gave my wife a gift and card which seemed very happy with. I think v day is such a hallmark holiday but I figure it's no big deal to buy her a gift anyway! Since we dont have sex any other days of the year I have no expectations that I would have sex on v day so I am not disappointed because that's just the way our relationship is.
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I bought her a big Mylar heart balloon and we went out to lunch.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:20 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Played with my dog and had a half bottle of wine.
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Old 02-15-2012, 01:48 PM   #7 (permalink)
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While in a sexless marriage, I always thought that NOT doing something would just extend the sexless period. So I made sure I did something on that day and guess what? The sexless period just continued.

If you aren't addressing it before Valentines Day, doing something that day isn't going to help.
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I consider my marriage pretty close to sexless; once or twice a month, and problems associated with that!

My H is sick with a bad cold right now, so I knew there'd be no sex on the table...but I bought valentine's cupcakes for the family, and he surprised me with a card and a Pandora charm with his initial (matches the one with my initial). He loves me. We're working on the sexless part. I'm very encouraged.
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He mumbled "happy valentine's day" over the phone from work, which I do appreciate, though by this point, any gesture of affection from him (not that they happen much) feels kind of creepy.
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I didn't acknowledge valentines day at all -the I knew she wouldn't acknowledge it either. Not sure if she had expected it or not. But I did wish others happy v day.

There's nothing happy neither special on this day for us. She never has expressed appreciation for me.

So on this v day I told her of the news that I will be moving out shortly and separating - more than likely it will lead to divorce. Not what I want but its necessary for me to to get more of a sane mind.
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I didn't acknowledge valentines day at all -the I knew she wouldn't acknowledge it either. Not sure if she had expected it or not. But I did wish others happy v day.

There's nothing happy neither special on this day for us. She never has expressed appreciation for me.

So on this v day I told her of the news that I will be moving out shortly and separating - more than likely it will lead to divorce. Not what I want but its necessary for me to to get more of a sane mind.
sad to say i am right there with ya
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Exchanged cards and I sent flowers to her at work ... didn't work ... again!
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I consider my marriage pretty close to sexless; once or twice a month, and problems associated with that!

My H is sick with a bad cold right now, so I knew there'd be no sex on the table...but I bought valentine's cupcakes for the family, and he surprised me with a card and a Pandora charm with his initial (matches the one with my initial). He loves me. We're working on the sexless part. I'm very encouraged.
It's all perspective but once or twice a month doesn't sound even close to sexless to me! Now, zero times per year which is what goes on in my relationship is sexless..
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It's all perspective but once or twice a month doesn't sound even close to sexless to me! Now, zero times per year which is what goes on in my relationship is sexless..
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Some complain about once a week! I'd probably be walking funny if I got it once a week! Limp, limp!
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She got the same as me nothing .....never even acknowledge the day not a kiss or a word of love
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