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View Poll Results: is she telling the truth? or do all women want guys with a big penis?
i'm sure she's telling you the truth, not all woman want a dude with a huge penis 18 25.35%
every woman would prefer if their man were hung like a horse 10 14.08%
it's not the size of your tool, its how you use it 19 26.76%
what i've learned in my years of researching the female species: women are liars 14 19.72%
it goes both ways man; we lust after breasts and butts and they like c*cks 3 4.23%
They say they do but I think a lot of them would be intimidated by a guy with a big penis 7 9.86%
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Old 02-21-2012, 09:32 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Karma sutra says people with big genitalia should be matched.


some women like biger because they are bigger and some like smaller because they are smaller.

but the vast majority fall into the average catorgory.

a friend of mine is very large and he complaines that he would much rather be average. some women actually refuse to have sex with him because of his size
I have had this happen to me; upon opening the present, I was surprised and delighted! It was fun at first...Then, after a few dates with the gentleman, I dumped him. Too big! I swear, he must've been at least 10 inches, and as girthy as a beer bottle...he didnt' fit all the way in, not for lack of trying!

The really good thing about a big ****, is that I can orgasm almost right away, if it's the right size. Too big, no good...
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Goldikocks!

My vagina is very small, so I never liked sleeping with men who were huge because it hurt like hell.

I will say that most women will not be happy with a man who is like a baby carrot.

I had one of those and the sex was sadly terrible. I faked an orgasm just to get him off me-could barely feel a thing, even with my too tight vag.

My husband is the perfect size for me.

Why fake? Why not say, hey buddy, buck up and go to town or get off me. By allowing him to get off, he's getting what he wants. What's in it for you?
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I've never understood the big penis obsession, but guys are competitive and urinals are public, so I guess they somehow feel that a big organ equates to alpha status. Remember the Rescue Me episode where the guys discussed this?

The average vagina is 4-7 inches long, and the cervix does ascend when a woman is aroused to accommodate the penis. So there is no biological reason to prefer a big penis. Average size does the job just fine.

Since the most important sexual organ is the brain, the woman's attitude toward the man will determine her reaction to his size.

I desire a man who is not a selfish lover. That is the only size that matters to me.
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If he is too small, he's too small. What can he do with that advice? "Hey dude, your penis is too small"...that's not constructive criticism, that is just mean. I too have had sex with a man that was incredibly thin and I could barely feel it. It felt like having sex with a flaccid penis...
Well, I was talking more about the faking than the size. However, some of us value honesty more than others. I would hate to be with someone for years then finding out they were not satisfied with me sexually. So what he could do with that avice is to be let go to find the one for him so he can please that person. Not sit there and have you build resentment over the tiny fella.
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This is an odd poll. I'm not sure how breast size can be compared with penis size.

As with many areas in sex, despite our best efforts to normalize our own experiences, there is so much individual variation it really doesn't make sense to invest too much thought about what "women" want and instead try to figure out what your woman wants.

Part of the equation is about how the woman is built and exactly how much and to what degree will she likes penetrative sex. Some women are all about the size and for other women the bigger the penis the bigger the problem. There is a lot of variation out there.

As for breast versus penis size, it seems breast size has a cosmic appeal (for some men more than others) but it has little nothing to do with what makes a woman a good lover and what will sustain a good sex life.
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I've never understood the big penis obsession, but guys are competitive and urinals are public, so I guess they somehow feel that a big organ equates to alpha status. Remember the Rescue Me episode where the guys discussed this?

The average vagina is 4-7 inches long, and the cervix does ascend when a woman is aroused to accommodate the penis. So there is no biological reason to prefer a big penis. Average size does the job just fine.

Since the most important sexual organ is the brain, the woman's attitude toward the man will determine her reaction to his size.

I desire a man who is not a selfish lover. That is the only size that matters to me.
Well, that must mean you never had any issues with your body. whether it be too small/too large breasts, too small/too large a butt, or any other superficial stuff woment typically consume themselves with. It's the same thing. And just as how you have people that make fun of small chested women and gawk at large chested ones, the same can be said for penis'.
As many here have said, the bewilderment and excitement of seeing a large one is there, until it is a foot into you, then all the fun is gone. So my question is, why is it such a sight to behold if it is of no use to you. Why is there no reaction of "Oh my God, your average penis is AMAZING to look at!!!"
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Well, I was talking more about the faking than the size. However, some of us value honesty more than others. I would hate to be with someone for years then finding out they were not satisfied with me sexually. So what he could do with that avice is to be let go to find the one for him so he can please that person. Not sit there and have you build resentment over the tiny fella.
...I haven't faked since I was a teenager...

...and I did once say to a guy "Ok get off me and phone me a taxi..."...LOL...that had to do with him being really shIIty at it, rather than his size...

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This is an odd poll. I'm not sure how breast size can be compared with penis size.

As with many areas in sex, despite our best efforts to normalize our own experiences, there is so much individual variation it really doesn't make sense to invest too much thought about what "women" want and instead try to figure out what your woman wants.

Part of the equation is about how the woman is built and exactly how much and to what degree will she likes penetrative sex. Some women are all about the size and for other women the bigger the penis the bigger the problem. There is a lot of variation out there.

As for breast versus penis size, it seems breast size has a cosmic appeal (for some men more than others) but it has little nothing to do with what makes a woman a good lover and what will sustain a good sex life.
Not sure if you're a man or woman, but breast size, to most men, equates to how sexy a woman is. Penis size does not equate to being a good lover or equate to a good sex life either, but women rather see a nice bulge in boxer briefs. So again, the similarties continue.
Big breasts are awesome to look at, and the "good" thing is, the only person it probably causes any pain is the woman that has them. So I guess in that way, they are different.
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...I haven't faked since I was a teenager...

...and I did once say to a guy "Ok get off me and phone me a taxi..."...LOL...that had to do with him being really shIIty at it, rather than his size...

But even as a teenager, why fake? Why are women so caught up in this idea that faking is something they need to do? The thing is, most women would be devastated and feel less of a woman if they found out their partner faked (condoms make this possible).
I owuld always tell a woman I am dating, "faking is dumb, because I won't try to please you further if I think I already am. So fake if you want, but don't blame me after."
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Well, that must mean you never had any issues with your body. whether it be too small/too large breasts, too small/too large a butt, or any other superficial stuff woment typically consume themselves with. It's the same thing. And just as how you have people that make fun of small chested women and gawk at large chested ones, the same can be said for penis'.
As many here have said, the bewilderment and excitement of seeing a large one is there, until it is a foot into you, then all the fun is gone. So my question is, why is it such a sight to behold if it is of no use to you. Why is there no reaction of "Oh my God, your average penis is AMAZING to look at!!!"

It was my husband's self-confidence that helped me overcome my issues with my body. We are both short, and you know how people do not respect short men.

My husband has never let his height hold him back. I love that he is comfortable with who he is. That is very sexy to me.
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Oh geez...I think you watch too much porn. I have never shown excitement over the size of a penis. Shocked? Maybe. Nervous or scared? Definitely. I don't know about the other women here, but if we are getting ready to have sex, I am much more concerned with what you can do with your member vs. what it looks like.

Men are the ones making such a big deal about size, not women.
No, women do it in real life too. Of course in porn it is exaggerated, which we all know. But in real life, women also say the famous "it is so big/thick/etc!" when it is in them. Maybe they watched too much porn
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It was my husband's self-confidence that helped me overcome my issues with my body. We are both short, and you know how people do not respect short men.

My husband has never let his height hold him back. I love that he is comfortable with who he is. That is very sexy to me.
Ok, so you understand that people have body issues and how it can affect them. So don't say you don't understand where it comes from. Yes, some people can overcome them, but for the most part it is still an issue.
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To be honest, size does matter. Too big would hurt I would imagine, especially with deep thrusting.

I'm very satisified with my husband's manhood and the frequency of intimacy we have. He seems to be pretty happy himself as well these days. My drive is higher then his at the moment. I do hope this will last. It makes our bond very strong. I feel so much closer to him.
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It's called dirty talk. It is meant to arouse and compliment. We know how concerned you all are with the size of your penis. What better way to compliment than to tell you how large it is?
that's not dirty talk. that's just lying. lol. that's like telling an a-cup, "your breasts are a nice handful..." Leaving out the "...for a midget." part doesn't make it right. And if the other party knows better, then they'll just hate you for lying.

as for me, the biggest compliment is not size, for me, it's how good I make you feel. But I guess that comes from knowing that size and ability are not a real concern.
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But even as a teenager, why fake? Why are women so caught up in this idea that faking is something they need to do? The thing is, most women would be devastated and feel less of a woman if they found out their partner faked (condoms make this possible).
I owuld always tell a woman I am dating, "faking is dumb, because I won't try to please you further if I think I already am. So fake if you want, but don't blame me after."
Because at the age of 15, I had no friggin' clue what I was doing, and neither did the man (boy) of the hour...I can't speak for anyone but myself, but it rarely happens with penetration alone. I've either got to help it along a little, hope for the best, add a vibe, or rely on oral. Most 15 year old girls aren't familiear with vibrators and such...

I had to teach myself how to be a great lover; and that took a few years of trial and error. What works, and what doesn't. If a guy ever told me "faking is dumb, because I won't try to please you further if I think I already am. So fake if you want, but don't blame me after", I think I'd be calling a cab.

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