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View Poll Results: is she telling the truth? or do all women want guys with a big penis?
i'm sure she's telling you the truth, not all woman want a dude with a huge penis
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every woman would prefer if their man were hung like a horse
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it's not the size of your tool, its how you use it
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what i've learned in my years of researching the female species: women are liars
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it goes both ways man; we lust after breasts and butts and they like c*cks
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They say they do but I think a lot of them would be intimidated by a guy with a big penis
Every woman has different size and depth "requirements" depending on her size and depth. Some women may need longer, some women may need wider. Each woman needs to find the man that provides everything she needs. It's encompasses all factors including size of the penis, size of the mind and size of the heart.
Every woman has different size and depth "requirements" depending on her size and depth. Some women may need longer, some women may need wider. Each woman needs to find the man that provides everything she needs. It's encompasses all factors including size of the penis, size of the mind and size of the heart.
BTW, she says I am just the right size for her.
Well, of course she did. She didn't want to prolong the conversation.
If you say so...but how do you know it isn't big/tight for her? I only have an a-cup. I love it when my H loves on them and tells me they are the right size. Even though I know they are small, I believe he likes them at the size they are and him saying so helps my ego. You work with what you've got.
I married a butt man.
And there in lies the difference. He "likes" what you have. If he didn't then you would not feel as confident as you do. I am with your H. I am all about the booty. The only issue with it is that, when I was younger, like 18/19, I liked petite women, which my wife was . As I got older, my taste changed and I started liking curvy women(not chubby chasing, curvy), my wife however, did not. So what do you do then? But despite all that, I try my best to make her feel as secure about herself as possible and to remove any inclination that my ideals have "evolved".
Eureka, so I just found out I have been guilty of doing what I told others not to earlier. Wow, discussion really does bring to light your inner feelings and thoughts. I always knew I had this conflict, but didn't know where it was coming from. Well, time to plump the wife up.
I had to teach myself how to be a great lover; and that took a few years of trial and error. What works, and what doesn't. If a guy ever told me "faking is dumb, because I won't try to please you further if I think I already am. So fake if you want, but don't blame me after", I think I'd be calling a cab.
Can I ask why? My wife and I have talked and she agrees that she won't fake. If I think what I am doing is working for her, why would I want to change?
I understand that perhaps the wording above of "won't try to please you any further" comes across poorly, but perhaps change it to "I will keep doing what you seem to like." In that case, if my wife faked her orgasm, why would she expect me to stop doing what I thought gave her an orgasm?
Our mutual understanding is that we both have a part to do in our orgasms. Neither of us comes with an instruction book, so we need to help the other out. Part of that is her telling me if what I am doing is not working for her, and telling me what she does need. Faking it works against that, so she won't do it.
As for size, she tells me I am just fine for her, so since she goes to bed with a smile, I will assume that is alright.
I agree with the breast analogy in some ways in that it is relatively important to some but, not to others. My wife for example confessed to doing a “size check” on me because she did not want to waste her time on date number 2. She said it was pretty easy to estimate how big a guy was by looking at his erection through his pants. She also said she “accidently” brushed her arm against my erection that night. Obviously size is/was important. Also, at the end of the day there are other more important things that make up a person to be sure. For sure women lie about this matter. I am not huge by but, am bigger than average. It has been a struggle to enter some women and have had a number of women “OMG you are so big” and it has not been in the context of it hurting. I think the whole “if it is too big it hurts” can be true but, is a highly exaggerated statement. REALLY big could be a real problem. Especially, if the man is so long/the women is so short that he cannot “bottom out” and rub the pelvis against the clit. Perhaps TMI but…
No, women do it in real life too. Of course in porn it is exaggerated, which we all know. But in real life, women also say the famous "it is so big/thick/etc!" when it is in them. Maybe they watched too much porn
That could be...or possibly it really does feel sooooo good right at that moment that they have to comment on it. I know that every time my husband enters me I do the same thing...a sharp intake of breath followed by a little moan. That first thrust, in the heat of passion is a little bit like heaven for me. My response may seem predictable or even put on but I assure you it isn't.
Like an earlier poster said, if you are faking then you really can't complain if you're not "getting there". If you sound happy then what motivation is there for a man to change up his routine? If you are faking to stroke his ego...well, I suspect sooner or later he will catch on.
Can I ask why? My wife and I have talked and she agrees that she won't fake. If I think what I am doing is working for her, why would I want to change?
I understand that perhaps the wording above of "won't try to please you any further" comes across poorly, but perhaps change it to "I will keep doing what you seem to like." In that case, if my wife faked her orgasm, why would she expect me to stop doing what I thought gave her an orgasm?
Our mutual understanding is that we both have a part to do in our orgasms. Neither of us comes with an instruction book, so we need to help the other out. Part of that is her telling me if what I am doing is not working for her, and telling me what she does need. Faking it works against that, so she won't do it.
As for size, she tells me I am just fine for her, so since she goes to bed with a smile, I will assume that is alright.
Why what? Why did I take the reigns in my own hands, so to speak? Because I started having sex when I was 15. It felt good, and was fun and all, but honestly, I wondered what all the fuss was about. At the age of 17, I discovered what oral was all about, and really? Wasn't that big of a fan (then). As I said earlier, I could not O with intercourse alone. I had always masturbated, so in my very early 20's I explored a little more, and added it to my partner sex. Whhhooooooeeeeee, I discovered that men just loved to see a woman touching herself. Bonus? An O (or 3 or 4) every time.
I taught myself, and several men how to become fantastic lovers. It wasn't something that just happened because we we happened to be having sex together.
Why what? Why did I take the reigns in my own hands, so to speak? Because I started having sex when I was 15. It felt good, and was fun and all, but honestly, I wondered what all the fuss was about. At the age of 17, I discovered what oral was all about, and really? Wasn't that big of a fan (then). As I said earlier, I could not O with intercourse alone. I had always masturbated, so in my very early 20's I explored a little more, and added it to my partner sex. Whhhooooooeeeeee, I discovered that men just loved to see a woman touching herself. Bonus? An O (or 3 or 4) every time.
I taught myself, and several men how to become fantastic lovers. It wasn't something that just happened because we we happened to be having sex together.
Sorry I was not clear, but why would you call a cab for a guy who says "faking is dumb, because I won't try to please you further if I think I already am. So fake if you want, but don't blame me after"?
Why fake? Why not say, hey buddy, buck up and go to town or get off me. By allowing him to get off, he's getting what he wants. What's in it for you?
Honestly, I could already see that he was one of those terrible lays who love to keep trying. There was never anything in it for me because this man was hopelessly clueless in bed.
So I just politely ended things with some screams. I was not interested in seeing him again. He came very quickly, had no oral skills or imagination and he was sadly tiny; I wasn't worried about setting a precedent because I knew that was the first and last time.
Normally, I didn't bother to fake unless I did not plan on being intimate with the man a second time. I would never do so in a long term relationship, including my marriage. I have no need to fake it with my husband because he knows his way around my body.
Hope that makes sense.
I agree that sexual organs have to be a unique match. I need at least 5.5 inches length and 2.5 inches circumference to be satisfied. My husband is larger in length and just right in cirumference. He starts slowly and then gradually increases the speed and depth of his thrusts. Men who were over seven inches always hurt too much, especially when they did not take the time for foreplay and gentle movements inside me at first.
Honestly, I could already see that he was one of those terrible lays who love to keep trying. There was never anything in it for me because this man was hopelessly clueless in bed.
So I just politely ended things with some screams. I was not interested in seeing him again. He came very quickly, had no oral skills or imagination and he was sadly tiny; I wasn't worried about setting a precedent because I knew that was the first and last time.
Normally, I didn't bother to fake unless I did not plan on being intimate with the man a second time. I would never do so in a long term relationship, including my marriage. I have no need to fake it with my husband because he knows his way around my body.
Hope that makes sense.
I agree that sexual organs have to be a unique match. I need at least 5.5 inches length and 2.5 inches circumference to be satisfied. My husband is larger in length and just right in cirumference. He starts slowly and then gradually increases the speed and depth of his thrusts. Men who were over seven inches always hurt too much, especially when they did not take the time for foreplay and gentle movements inside me at first.
do you mean 2.5 dia.
2.5 circumference would be kinda of skinny! don't think your hubby would like you saying hes so um skinny
Penis size is VERY important to some or perhaps all women. Most of those who insist it doesn't matter usually follow up the comment by pointing out that their SO is "blessed" with at the very least average or perhaps even larger equipment.
It was very important for my ex until she finally failed in her last two relationships and found herself out on the street with no place to live.
Then it was time to try to get her ex idiot to let her move back, but to no avail.
Even though I'm a big guy (6'-2" 250 lbs) I am average down in the plumbing area.
.....But I have a seven inch tounge.
Hubs is a smaller guy (5'8") and lean. But the latino stereotype is true in his case First time I saw it, my exact words were, "Holy crap!" I was worried. Now it seems very normal...he has spoiled me.
Hubs is a smaller guy (5'8") and lean. But the latino stereotype is true in his case First time I saw it, my exact words were, "Holy crap!" I was worried. Now it seems very normal...he has spoiled me.
There's a latino stereotype? Did not know this. Well, maybe that's why i've always been called blessed. Jamaican and Cuban, double dose. lol
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Re: Be Honest: Does Size Matter? 
I was not interested in seeing him again. He came very quickly, had no oral skills or imagination and he was sadly tiny; I wasn't worried about setting a precedent because I knew that was the first and last time.
