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View Poll Results: is she telling the truth? or do all women want guys with a big penis?
i'm sure she's telling you the truth, not all woman want a dude with a huge penis
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every woman would prefer if their man were hung like a horse
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it's not the size of your tool, its how you use it
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what i've learned in my years of researching the female species: women are liars
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it goes both ways man; we lust after breasts and butts and they like c*cks
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They say they do but I think a lot of them would be intimidated by a guy with a big penis
Whenever I hear this, I automatically think: pencil ****!
Seriously though! I have always found that size differs mostly in length; and it's true, as others have stated, that girth is what really counts.
As for how to use a pencil ****...I'm picturing stirring a coffee with a coffee stick thingie...gets the job done, but using a spoon is slightly more effective.
Not to change the subject, but experience has taught me that most women who make disparaging remarks about their former lovers have issues of their own. These are the gals who just lie back and wait for the fireworks to begin and have done nothing toward making sure their stuff works to help things out.
Regardless of whether a guy is working with a "pencil" or the large end of a ball bat, if that which he hopes to fill can't get involved by closing up a little, it won't be good for either.
I think it totally depends on the woman and who she's been with int he past. It also depends on her body.
Trust me, it's not cool to be about to lose your virginity (I was 15 she was 18) to a hot girl, she pulls your pants down and says - and I quote: "Holy ****. You're not sticking that thing in me."
I became quite proficient at performing oral sex on a woman. Not only do I happen to like it, it also helps "pave the way" for later.
Hell the first time I had sex with my now wife of 16 years, we had a bit of an issue putting rod A into hole B, and not for lack of preparation.
Now because of this there are certain positions that just aren't comfortable for her, and others I have to be VERY careful of not getting "too enthusiastic" with so that I don't hurt her.
Of course to a certain extent she's said she's "gotten used" to my size so it's easier at times.
And she really enjoys it when I go ahead and finish then just keep going...says it must "shrink it" a bit.
For other women I was with before I met my wife, some had zero issues with my size, others had some issues as well. Contrary to popular belief, it had nothing to do with the physical size of the woman in question.
I wouldn't know how to help you with this. I always joke that my husbands birth sign (chinese; horse) matches his package. I think it does matter to an extent, like if you're 3-inches, you would have issues, but if you're at least 5, it should be more of the motion of the ocean kinda thing.
As the other posters said, oral skills beat penis length every time. Unless she really hates oral, which would be weird.
1) does size preference vary during the menstrual cycle (e.g., closer to ovulation, maybe bigger is better, other times not so much)?
2) whenever I hear "it's not how big it is, it's how he uses it", the next question seems like it would be, OK, then, how do you want him to use it?
1) I wouldn't think so, it doesn't for me.
2) It does matter what size it is, if they say it doesn't really they are lying, because you can't use what you haven't got
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Originally Posted by mikeydread1982
This is particularly true. Most women are bad judges of size. Ladies, if you're of average build, look down at your forearm, that should be roughly 9 to 10 inches, and your fist would be close to the size of the head. If you've never had that, you ain't never had big darlin'.
Arrrhhhh size this is what tape measures are for, i don't think length of more than six inches or seven inches are needed, now girth is where it matters most, my wrist is six inches and my estranged husbands girth nearly matches that.
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Originally Posted by CantBeJustMe
For other women I was with before I met my wife, some had zero issues with my size, others had some issues as well. Contrary to popular belief, it had nothing to do with the physical size of the woman in question.
I have had men as large as 8-11 inches and small as 3 inches.
Most have been in between.
The man I was with before I met my husband was nearly 12 inches (yes really) and he couldn't even get it inside me all the way, without causing major discomfort. Very large d!cks don't feel good to me at all.
My husband is much less than 12, but he feels perfect inside me.
While we're on the subject of matching, if the husband is too long for the wife to handle any rear entry positions, is there anything to be done about that? Any good ways to work around the issue?
While we're on the subject of matching, if the husband is too long for the wife to handle any rear entry positions, is there anything to be done about that? Any good ways to work around the issue?
I guess so - but looking forward to a lifetime of missionary and her on top facing forward...
I know the feeling. I just recently received (get it?- yes I easily amuse myself) the suggestion of getting a piece of foam insulation the approximate width of your "equipment" and cutting it be an inch or two long and slide it over. It's like a "safety cushion". I haven't tried it yet, but definitely plan to.
Also, have you tried putting a pillow under your wife's butt during missionary?
OMG, I would have never married a man that big! Nine inches makes me squeeze my legs together. Then again, my vagina is as tight and small as a virgin's.
You will just have to start slowly and perhaps not put all of your penis inside your wife.
You will just have to start slowly and perhaps not put all of your penis inside your wife.
Been doing that for 17 years.
And being a virgin has nothing to do with the "size" of a vagina. BTDT. Ex-GF from way back was a virgin. And YES I definitely know for sure. After slow and easy initially...she basically took every bit of me for as long and as hard as I could go.
Yes I miss her. But she was crazy. Now if I could have married her, had her locked up in an institution with conjugal visitation, then my life might have been very different LOL
8x6. And as the wife says, my love draws tears, and my love tears drawers. But it's so funny that women claim a vagina is "only 6-7 inches". Really? So how are there women that can manage the larger fellas and enjoy it. those depth readings gotta be wrong, or maybe there's some cervix shifting going on. lol.
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