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1) Do you think it's gross to give your man oral after he's been inside you even if he hasn't had orgasm yet?
2) Do you think that a woman who likes to keep foreplay short and get right to sex just wants to get it done with or doesn't care for foreplay? like oral for example.
3) If a man asked you to dress sexy lingerie etc, and you didn't, would it be because lack or self esteem or just not interested in pleasing him?
I don't mind giving oral after he's been inside. And in the moment, it's awesome.
Sometimes I don't want a lot of foreplay. Sometimes I want ONLY foreplay with intercourse being a few minutes. Sometimes he wants NO foreplay...and I have to remind him that women need to get wet LOL. It all depends on the moment.
Maybe she feels silly in lingerie. Some people are selfconscious and maybe she feels not very sexy in it. It was YEARS until I could wear it and feel sexy...well after I turned 30 for sure.
Now I love dressing up!
1) I don't mind it, but I could see how some women would get grossed out by it.
2) I love foreplay and need at least a little to get me going, but I don't always need or want a lot of it. Sometimes a quickie is what I want.
3) I like wearing lingerie once in a while, especially if he asked me to. I'm lucky he likes me in a tank top with no bra and boyshorts more than fancy lingerie. I wear that often because I know he likes it.
My guess is your wife feels self conscious in lingerie. It's not that uncommon.
1) No, but just like everything else that is going to be case by case. I am totally comfortable and trust my partner completely - so I would have no issues.
2) Depends on my mood and how much time we have.
3) Again this depends on the woman, her comfort level with her body and her partner. I have been with my husband for close to 25 years and I can still be very shy.
1) Do you think it's gross to give your man oral after he's been inside you even if he hasn't had orgasm yet?
I do not think it is gross. I would say quite to the contrary.
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2) Do you think that a woman who likes to keep foreplay short and get right to sex just wants to get it done with or doesn't care for foreplay? like oral for example.
I would not assume that she wants to just get it done or doesn't care for foreplay but I wouldn't rule it out either. Communication is key here.
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3) If a man asked you to dress sexy lingerie etc, and you didn't, would it be because lack or self esteem or just not interested in pleasing him?
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Again, I wouldn't assume anything but most women who suffer from low self esteem are not thrilled to dress revealing.
With these questions you have to look at the entire relationship. If you have a totally loving woman and the relationship is positive in every way with these issues you are probably dealing with self esteem issues and/or just being uncomfortable.
Also her age is a factor. If she is closer to a virgin than not, certainly a lack of experience and confidence could be in play here.
1) I’ve done it, don’t really mind and will initiate it if were in the Jacuzzi or shower, but it’s not something that turns me on.
2) Like some of the other women here I’ll go both ways. Sometimes I want lots of foreplay and sometimes I want to get right to business. I like both, I guess it depends on my mood.
3) I would say lack of self-esteem. I have lingerie and have worn it but don’t feel completely sexy in it. Even when I do wear it though it never stays on long enough for it to matter. I don’t think my hubby cares what I’m wearing, he just wants it off.
2. Depends - H travels for work (1 mth on/2 wks off) so lots of foreplay's not usually needed when he returns; we're both usually ready for the release. Otherwise, I love it ! Sound selfish, I know, but he does a d**m good job making it all about me!
3. What I like about wearing lingerie is HIS reaction; not necessarily wearing it for me. The better he likes it, the more I wear it!
1) Do you think it's gross to give your man oral after he's been inside you even if he hasn't had orgasm yet?
This would be a health concern for me as certain viruses can be spread from the mouth to the genitals and vice versa. So I'd have to be 100% certain of his monogamy and STD free state to feel comfortable doing it.
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2) Do you think that a woman who likes to keep foreplay short and get right to sex just wants to get it done with or doesn't care for foreplay? like oral for example.
Not necessarily, but it definitely could be the case.
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3) If a man asked you to dress sexy lingerie etc, and you didn't, would it be because lack or self esteem or just not interested in pleasing him?
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Again it could be either. If a woman feels out of shape or unattractive it's hard for her to feel "sexy."
1) Do you think it's gross to give your man oral after he's been inside you even if he hasn't had orgasm yet?
Not gross. Totally hot.
2) Do you think that a woman who likes to keep foreplay short and get right to sex just wants to get it done with or doesn't care for foreplay? like oral for example.
I can't speak for other women, but if I'm declining foreplay it's usually because it's boring and I'd rather get to sex... or I'm so wound up that if I don't get it right that minute I'm going to lose my mind.
3) If a man asked you to dress sexy lingerie etc, and you didn't, would it be because lack or self esteem or just not interested in pleasing him?
Lack of self-esteem. If I had a hotter body, I'd walk around naked, but I don't, so I stay clothed LOL.
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I sometiems don't want foreplay at all (jsut enough to work me up) and I love sex!
