02-23-2012, 04:03 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
Originally Posted by Cupcake37
Not sure I can offer much advice, but just wanted to say hi and let you know that you are not alone. Reading your posts and how you feel sounds very similar to my position. I am 37, been married for 5 years, am in good shape, look after myself and my husband is never interessted in sex. It absoluetely kills me and I too cry myself to sleep at night.
I have two young children and I know if I didn't have them I would have left him by now. I feel robbed. Like your husband my husband never tells me he loves me, I look nice, nothing. i feel very lonely and unloved and some days I convince myself I can live like this for the sake of the children and then otherdays I get upset. I see other couples and think why can't I have that? I honestly can't imagine being with a man who couldn't keep his hands of me, not sure if I would know what to do. It has reached a stage now where I have just shut off from him and am seriously considering finding somebody else as this is killing me.
Hope you are o.k and keep posting, you are not alone XX
I understand how you feel as I am a husband around your age in a sexless marriage. The way to deal with it if you choose not to leave is to remember that no one can dictate your happiness. It took me a long time to realize this. Your husband's actions/inactions should not be "killing" you or causing you to cry when you go to sleep. Once you get to the point where you realize you are an independent person who does not need your husband's affirmations to feel good, you will realize all that there is to be happy about in life.
I know it is easier said than done, but you can stay married if you choose AND also be happy in life even if your husband stays the way he is. However, if you really feel so miserable about the situation and neither you nor your husband are willing to change your expectations, then you would be better off leaving even though that is hard to do. Posted via Mobile Device