Help - almost sexless marriage
First of all, I can breathe a big sigh of relief at finding this forum. Phew. I have been googling and trying to figure out what to do for so long.. I just really need advice.
My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 5. We have a 10 month old son. I'm 28, he is 30.
My problem is this. The only thing we ever argue about is sex. He never wants it. We usually only have sex once a month, and I'm starting to feel that it's out of obligation.
I hate this. I would be more than happy to have some sort of sexual contact every day.
This isn't a new issue. We've fought about it for about 4 years now, ever since I was pregnant the first time (our daughter was stillborn)
He always has a reason, however weak it may be. After our daughter passed, it was because I was too depressed, and he felt like he was 'bothering' me. So I worked on it. I went to counselling and eventually came out of my depression.
Then the next time the fight came up there was another reason, and there always seems to be some excuse.
I've asked him numerous times and he says it isn't me. But really? I'm starting to think that it is. I'm so tired of crying myself to sleep, and need to think of ways to make this better.
Thank you, and a big gold star for you if you made it through all of that.