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Old 02-23-2012, 03:31 PM   #16 (permalink)
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If your wife is also overwhelmed by life's responsibilities, there is no wondering why she isn't in the mood for sex. I'm a good wife, sex is the last thing on my mind, and I'm glad that I have a patient and loving husband.
We both work full-time and equally share all the chores and responsibilities. We're both equally stressed but we're happy to have each other and our kids. She loves me and respects me a lot but when I touch her, she immediately removes my hand. Ten years ago she would get aroused by my voice on the phone. I'm so confused.
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What kind of feminist movement would have their supporter cast away femeninity? This sounds more like a nunnery than a simple rights movement.
Like any socio-political movement, there is a very wide spectrum of ancillary thought among those that embrace the basic ideals. Not all of it is pretty.
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Old 02-23-2012, 03:35 PM   #18 (permalink)
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One of two things are going on here.

1.) bobb & amegirl are husband & wife. If so, since you now have the issue out on the table I'd suggest you address it between yourselves.

2.) bobb & amegirl are the same person making you a troll. If so, I suggest you quit waisting our time.

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Old 02-23-2012, 03:44 PM   #19 (permalink)
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lesbian?
Thank you for saying that.

Almost every thread where a man isn`t interested in sex with his wife a couple of posters question his sexuality.

This is the first I`ve heard it about a woman.
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Old 02-23-2012, 11:21 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Pulling away from you and not wanting to have sex with you to the extent of suggesting you satisfy your desires with another woman suggests major rejection. You can go on pretending she loves and cares for you but action speaks louder than words. Don't kid yourself! I think you should insist on marriage counseling so you can get to the bottom of this and figure out what your wife really wants. She has already checked out of the marriage so you either need to get it fixed (counseling) or go your separate ways. You probably have experienced what happens when you disregard the symptoms of a problem with your car. It doesn't fix itself. It only gets worse.
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Old 02-23-2012, 11:30 PM   #21 (permalink)
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This is like my marriage. But unlike you Mr. Selfish, my husband understands that a woman doesn't feel like having sex when she has to take care of two pre-school kids, maintain a full-time job and several household chores.

If your wife is also overwhelmed by life's responsibilities, there is no wondering why she isn't in the mood for sex. I'm a good wife, sex is the last thing on my mind, and I'm glad that I have a patient and loving husband.
Wow. I don't think your husband is as understanding as you think, no one gets married to NOT have sex... he just doesn't push the issue because he doesn't want to get turned down. And the OP isn't selfish.

I work full time, have two kids, take care of the home, hubs works 12 hours days 5 days a week, I just found out I have a 9 inch diameter tumor on my ovary that needs to be removed yesterday and yet....sex is still amazing.

Priorities. Sex in a marriage is a priority. Sex in marriage is part of being a good wife/husband.
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Old 02-23-2012, 11:31 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Thank you for saying that.

Almost every thread where a man isn`t interested in sex with his wife a couple of posters question his sexuality.

This is the first I`ve heard it about a woman.
When I read the "woman's group", I thought lesbian.

It wouldn't be a surprise. MANY gay men get married and have children because it's society's 'norm'....I'm sure women do it too.
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I just found out I have a 9 inch diameter tumor on my ovary that needs to be removed yesterday and yet....sex is still amazing.
That_girl, I pray that your surgery will be a success and that your recovery will be a speedy one.
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Old 02-24-2012, 06:19 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Someone who's I love with you is not going to deny you your sexual needs. I'm I'm love with my husband and I can not imagine not having sex with him. I'd divorce him if he had sex with someone else. I'm sure he'd do the same for me.

I can't see this ever working out.
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Old 02-24-2012, 06:40 AM   #25 (permalink)
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Man, do I sympathize with you! I thought I was in bad shape; you make me look like I'm in high cotton, although I have my own issues! Demand marital counselling! If she continues to refuse, divorce her. I think she is lesbian because she obviously has zero hetero sex drive--at least for you. For years, my wife refused to go to counselling. Only when I gave her the MC or D choice did she go.
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Old 02-24-2012, 07:00 AM   #26 (permalink)
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This is like my marriage. But unlike you Mr. Selfish, my husband understands that a woman doesn't feel like having sex when she has to take care of two pre-school kids, maintain a full-time job and several household chores.

If your wife is also overwhelmed by life's responsibilities, there is no wondering why she isn't in the mood for sex. I'm a good wife, sex is the last thing on my mind, and I'm glad that I have a patient and loving husband.
1x/wk @ 20-30 minutes = 21-26 hours/yr......i.e. losing 30 minutes of sleep a week or missing a tv show...... Really asking so so much??????

Does your spouse help around the house, play with the kids do chores.......

Yes the young children years are difficult, and can easily expect a dry spell and diminishing sex, but the OP only has 1 child and 4X in 5 years!!!!!!
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Old 02-24-2012, 07:44 AM   #27 (permalink)
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One of two things are going on here.

1.) bobb & amegirl are husband & wife. If so, since you now have the issue out on the table I'd suggest you address it between yourselves.

2.) bobb & amegirl are the same person making you a troll. If so, I suggest you quit waisting our time.

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Holy crap, if it's number two, I will bang my head against a wall for being trolled hard.

If it's number 1, amegirl's first impression as the wife does her very little credit.
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