Third time is not a charm. I again brought up my husband's recent refusal to perform oral on me when he got frisky tonight - needless to say he seemed annoyed. He implies this shouldn't bother me so much, that I should just accept this indefinite arrangement without complaint. I had just showered, too, so hygiene isn't an issue.
I'm hurt because this was a very regular occurrence for me up until a few weeks ago. Because I am pregnant, he feels I am different, "more potent" were his exact words. (Note - he'd been performing oral on me while pregnant for the last 7 months... So why now)?
Can I understand the discomfort? Sure! There have been a lot of times I performed on him and he tasted different - stronger, weaker, etc. (Based on his diet? I think this is why it varies). There were times I performed on him as soon as he got off work - after running around in the hot sun all day... And I never refused. I never even mentioned to him that he might have needed a shower, or change his diet, etc. (He has not mentioned those things to me, just to be clear).
He used his hands on me as foreplay tonight, and I randomly pulled his hand up to our faces and tasted for myself - honestly there wasn't a difference! I encouraged him to do the same, to which he reluctantly tried.
Probably the reason this hurts me so much is everyday I see my husband do disgusting things - like break fish oil capsules in his mouth, or chew valarian root tablets (they smell like FEET! I kid you not!) In the past I've also seen him drink those green alfalfa supplements which are also pretty gnarly. How can *I* be worse than that, and not notice???
I suggested flavored lubricants and he still declined. I have a feeling that dental dams, fresh showers, hell, leaving my panties on aren't going to sway him. I'm upset that he isn't even open to compromise!
Am I over-reacting here or is he being selfish? It's a big deal to me and I feel so rejected and confused by this. Especially since he worked so hard to get me to accept receiving oral in the first place!
Thoughts, suggestions, ideas?
Sorry for the repeat threads, but this is really upsetting me and I'm tired of being blown off (no pun intended) Posted via Mobile Device