Is my wife asexual?
Hello, I've been married for six years. Guess how many times I've had sex? None. I'm a virgin.
I fell in love with my wife when I was 25, and we got married within a few months. Our Nepalese culture disapproves of premarital sex, so we never had sex while we were dating. But we were clearly physically attracted to each other. Kissing and fondling and BJs were commonplace.
But ever since we got married, she always has an excuse- a headache, a period, sadness, a movie or tv show, work exhaustion. Even when I ask her a week in advance when her day off is and make plans for us to have sex, somehow she still manages not to.
Complaining makes things worse and she heads for divorce talks rightaway. She tells me that she understands she "has a problem" and that "i'm a saint" (little consolation), but things pretty much remain unchanged.
I don't want to leave her, but I can't live a sexless life either. Can anybody tell me whether my wife is asexual? Any advice/info would be much appreciated.