Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Cape Coral, FLorida
Re: Wife doesnt want sex....very little intimacy
You are definitely papering over cracks. These one or two select lovers...are they male or female? I notice you say you feel confident and alive, less trapped. This sounds like a very unhealthy situation. If you two are expecting the swinging to build your marriage back up by spicing things up, its not. Its driving you further from each other if you now feel alive and happy again because someone else is validating you. From your post it doesn't even sound like you wanted to marry to begin with. That is your issue, not your lack of desire. Desire wasn't there even on your wedding day. You need to ask yourself whether or not you really want to be married.
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.