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I have been married to my husband for 3 years dated for two before marriage. When we both met we both smoked pot on a regular basis. He has smoked pot all of his adult life he is 30 and me some in college and on occasion since then I am 38. Recently, I have been drifting away from smoking wondering how much it really makes sense in my life these days. We have two children together. Our pot smoking has now resorted to us having a joint together after the children are asleep and then we usually have sex. My husband smokes pot alot more than me, sometimes during his lunch breaks at work or even in the morning. I have confronted him about how I hate when he does this during work. I am beginning to learn that he may have other addictions (porn). Most recently, I went on a fast from pot and gave myself a timeline to just clear my head without smoking at all. I have found that when I don't smoke, I am not sexually attracted to him. I want to be honest with him and communicate this with him but I am not sure if it will hurt his feelings, also beginning to think that this could be a more serious issue of me just getting sick of the pot smoking and wanting to focus on other things. Can someone offer advice to this??
Do you have any sexual desire when you're off of it? If not, it could be that it's a withdrawal thing.
If you do, it could be that you're growing up and taking on adult responsibility while he is still living in never ending adolescence.
I was with a pot addict and had my own addiction too to it. He started doing it more and more, to the point where he was stoned all day and didn't want to do anything if it didn't involve getting high.
I thought when we were in our twenties that it was a temporary thing and he would stop when we got married and had a child. Instead he got so into he ended up being the dealer for his group of friends.
What was his reaction when you stopped and when you told him that you were concerned about his increasing use of it? Has he noticed that you don't want sex anymore?
It wasn't until I got away from him that I realized what a downer pot was on my life. How much of our lives was spent trying to get it, how much money we wasted on it. How it affects your thoughts even when you're not high. It took away my desire to accomplish anything.
I felt like I couldn't handle him when he wasn't stoned, he would get so irritable and angry. Posted via Mobile Device
looks like its his heavy use of canibis thats bothering you. You have matured and want to grow as a person and he just wants to smoke away.
Tell him you miss him when hes high. see if he will cut back to only smoking on weekends.Find something fun to do together without smoking and just enjoy eachothers true personality for a change. weed tends to dull everything, If you could get him to quit for awhile he might realise how much better life is without it.
Love the pot head comments. I like hearing how you manage to justify your illegal, mind altering habit.
My wife was a daily user for years. I never did. Like you I did not find a smelly, stoned person attractive. My wife didn't find me worth quitting for. I hope to eventually find someone who will not need to look at the world through a drug induced fog. Posted via Mobile Device
I agree wholeheartedly that cannibis is a healing plant. We allow medical marijuana in Canada for that reason. If a Canadian has cancer or aids, an MD can prescribe it.
Marijuana in small amounts for personal use is not illegal here. Perhaps Chuckp47 needs to realize that not everyone is from the U.S. Our police have real crimes to worry about and at least we don't waste money on a stupid drug war.
Alcohol and caffeine are not mind altering right?
Even as a stoner, I don't believe that children should be exposed to marijuana. I am never high around my nieces, nor do I smoke around them.
Anything can be addictive. It's a matter of how it changes you. Some people can smoke pot recreationally. This man is not able to get through the day without it. I'd say the same thing if he were drinking all day, taking prescription pain killers all day or doing coke. It's a matter of some one's ability to
cope and relate without needing to have a very altered state of mind. Posted via Mobile Device
Don't even get me started on this subject as we've already had our previous arguments!
Everything in moderation is fine. But these things can become an addiction. There is a difference people! Don't lump recreational users in the same category as those addicted to pot. Unless you've lived with one, you don't know what it's like so don't assume that it's all harmless just because it is to you.
Yep. When you run out of pot what do you do? Spend hours calling people, climbing the walls, sighing, being an angry irritable jerk to everyone? Do you get angry when someone asks you to do something that won't make pot use possible? Do you avoid people who don't smoke? Just like alcohol there are people who can drink one drink and be ok. Then there are people who make put the center of their life. Posted via Mobile Device