Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
I agree with Beowulf. I'm in the same boat but my wife isn't wanting sex too often. I don't have the emotional connection I did back in the day before kids. Mine blames it on work, stress, and not enough time in the day. I could talk till I'm blue in the face about it and it would never change. She's kinda sexless but not as bad as some. Maybe once a month here. If anyone finds a good answer shoot some advice this way.
so do you divorce over not getting enough sex? I don't think so....
I did divorce for that exact reason and yes, I am a women not a guy... We all have needs and life is too short to compromise your own happiness for someone else.It rarely gets appreciated anyways because no one feels what you feel, I wish more people would just allow themselves to be happy instead of taking anti depressants,anti anxiety drugs etc...when all they have to do is change their lives for better...
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Then you don't jin Romani chib...
so sex was so impt you left your husband? Posted via Mobile Device
Yes it was. When he cooled down towards me I went through all the motions - self esteem drop, even being hit on by 10 guys a day I still thought I must be ugly because the one that I want didn't want me. He loved me just our sex drives didn't match in long run - he thought honeymoon is over and 1-2 times a month should do it...... Basically I went to him and said I need to divorce you or I will cheat on you and I choose to divorce. He was shocked at first but appreciated my honesty. We still are friends and have lots of respect towards each other.
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Can you rokker Romani chib, pal? Aye, aye, brother!
What's Weshenjuggalslomomengreskeytemskeytudlogueri? I don't know what you say, brother.
Then you don't jin Romani chib...
I agree, you can/should divorce because of a sex issue. I stopped wanting to have sex with my husband, not bc i dont like sex (I love it) but because he made me feel like **** on a daily basis, we argue, dont get along, etc., etc., and then I couldnt understand why he would think i would want to surrender myself to him in such a vulnerable way. After years of unhappiness we have seperated, my hope is to find my way back to him.......
I agree, you can/should divorce because of a sex issue. I stopped wanting to have sex with my husband, not bc i dont like sex (I love it) but because he made me feel like **** on a daily basis, we argue, dont get along, etc., etc., and then I couldnt understand why he would think i would want to surrender myself to him in such a vulnerable way. After years of unhappiness we have seperated, my hope is to find my way back to him.......
Many times there are other issues that affect the frequency of sex in a marriage. That's why I say you cannot ignore the sex issues since they are oftentimes, although not always, a symptom of an unhealthy relationship. I hope you do find happiness wherever that may lie.
Many times there are other issues that affect the frequency of sex in a marriage. That's why I say you cannot ignore the sex issues since they are oftentimes, although not always, a symptom of an unhealthy relationship. I hope you do find happiness wherever that may lie.
Well if you treat your spouse badly out of the bedroom you should not expect frequent sex....that is not the problem with us...We are very close emotionally and morally...sex is good just not often enough for me...and hammering at that issue does not help Posted via Mobile Device
Well if you treat your spouse badly out of the bedroom you should not expect frequent sex....that is not the problem with us...We are very close emotionally and morally...sex is good just not often enough for me...and hammering at that issue does not help Posted via Mobile Device
No, hammering at the issue will not help. But pulling back and showing her how much it bothers you might.
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