Re: What is so hard??
Me & mine even connect when one is sick, so long as we can breath and he can get it up, it's on. (stomach aches, tiredness, feeling like one has been beat up & left for dead -we are out of the game)...
The other night he told me I had to get on top cause if he was , he'd drip in my face... so there was my invitation. You'd think we'd catch each others colds... sometimes we do, but crazy as it may sound , most of the time we don't....we just take the risk anyway. We want to be together that much...and no, seriously I am not pushing him either, I have tamed considerably.
We do all tend to speak out of our own experiences... but that is what is wonderful here, the posters can have a vareity of perspectives ...generally something said by someone may resonate with them, their particular situation-that is not like anyone elses. It would be no good if we were all the same.
But true, we are seem to be geared tawards certain perspectives as we see time & time again here ... ..since I have been on both sides of this ....... and know how difficult it is to be HIGH DRIVE and crave the emotional with the physical....with an intensity that could have ruined my marraige if I was rejected on a regular basis, how could I not , in good conscience share what that was like ....I can't just lay that down.... I am compelled to speak on it... as I feel other high drivers are feeling the same. BUt as those high drivers, we must do our part in what they are "needing" in addition, going out of our way to please.
A couple weeks ago, we talked about this again, delving into how HE felt when I was not there enough...... hearing the resentment he built -while I thought we were happy, I felt like the biggest fool, our marraige a sham... I wanted to KNOW , I wanted to hear it all, but it was not easy to hear.
I know what lack of sex can do to a man, even the best of men (and I don't feel they all are missing something in the relationship) , if we care, we won't do this to those we love.
I'll never do it again, I am a new woman.