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He says he only does it because I like it but he rather not do it. He also said he only does it so he gets it in return. I must say, it hurts.
There is nothing wrong with me, I have been to the doctor for regular checkups so nothing wrong like that.
I told him that if he does not want to then I dont want him to do it. It totally kills the mood knowing he is not enjoying it.
I am not sure what kind of responses I expect but I am looking for advice I guess?
Been there, done that. I'm not sure what the deal is with men like this. I'm 40 and been with quite a few men, some who loved it and some who were just against it. I don't get.
I can say in my experience of like 15 men....they seem to either prefer oral or penetration. I have yet to experience a man who is completely into both. Personally I have to say I like penetration more but I would at least like a guy who gives me a "here you go" oral experience and then blows my mind penetration to a guy who is the other way around.
It just is what is. You can't change someone, all you can do is just tell them your needs. Maybe he would like it more if you guys did it at the same time to each other?
He says he only does it because I like it but he rather not do it. He also said he only does it so he gets it in return. I must say, it hurts.
There is nothing wrong with me, I have been to the doctor for regular checkups so nothing wrong like that.
I told him that if he does not want to then I dont want him to do it. It totally kills the mood knowing he is not enjoying it.
I am not sure what kind of responses I expect but I am looking for advice I guess?
To me, this is really messed up....it seems like your guy is really selfish in that department....My husband LOVES doing it....I think he likes doing it more that I like getting it...which is a lot....I just don't see why a guy would dislike having their face so close to vagina lol...makes no sense...I definitely would tell him that if he didn't want to do that, fine....but not to expect any blowjobs either....Maybe the next time you do go down on him you should just act like it is the most horrible thing ever and that you absolutely would rather be doing anything else...lol...see how he like it.
I can say in my experience of like 15 men....they seem to either prefer oral or penetration. I have yet to experience a man who is completely into both.
Wow! That's.messed.up.
Nothing better to alternate... A little hide the salami, then some munch the taco.....
I have to say, I DON'T like doing it until my wife orgasms.... She's a squirter, and getting piss all over my face just ain't my thing. I love to get her close then go wild with my fingers or let Mr happy do his thing
However.... The sickest I have ever been was from going down on my wife... She smelled rank that night, and I did it anyway.... Projectile vomited for two days after, people several apartments on either side could hear it, it was that bad.
Nothing better to alternate... A little hide the salami, then some munch the taco.....
I have to say, I DON'T like doing it until my wife orgasms.... She's a squirter, and getting piss all over my face just ain't my thing. I love to get her close then go wild with my fingers or let Mr happy do his thing
However.... The sickest I have ever been was from going down on my wife... She smelled rank that night, and I did it anyway.... Projectile vomited for two days after, people several apartments on either side could hear it, it was that bad.
It is not piss. I suppose there are women who are incontinent but in general the mechanism for squirting is not about urine.
My wife is a squirter and I love it.
I enjoy oral first followed by some urgent penetration. Once she starts cumming from oral she cums very qucikly from penetration. Our best love making sessions are about both. Women are at a great advantage as they can keep cumming over and over for long sessions.
Hygiene is important for both men and women. Taking a shower together before sex is a good start. A woman who enjoys this should help it along by doing what she can to make it a good experience for her lover. This goes for men as well.
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Last edited by Entropy3000; 03-23-2012 at 10:40 AM.
Is it possible that in his mind he's trying to save your feelings, or that he's uncomfortable with sharing what exactly is bothering him?
I love giving my wife oral, but I didn't do it nearly as much as either of us wanted to, mostly because I was afraid to tell my wife that I was getting hair stuck in my mouth and that I wanted her to shave her pubic region. But once I did and she was able to take care of my request, I was able to take care of her.
Is it possible that in his mind he's trying to save your feelings, or that he's uncomfortable with sharing what exactly is bothering him?
I love giving my wife oral, but I didn't do it nearly as much as either of us wanted to, mostly because I was afraid to tell my wife that I was getting hair stuck in my mouth and that I wanted her to shave her pubic region. But once I did and she was able to take care of my request, I was able to take care of her.
I love doing this for my wife too, more than I sometimes think she wants me to! She's a bit hung up on the idea that I'm down there but I know she loves it!
After reading your other threads I know why your husband doesn't like it. He's just flat out selfish and lazy. He's a taker plain and simple and giving isn't in his vocabulary.
This has nothing to do with you. This is HIS problem. Your ownership comes in how you've allowed him to manipulate you into doing everything for him.
Oh and he told you this so he could get out of doing it. But he still wants you to do it to him though. Jerk.
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