I just joined this forum hoping to find some answers tips or anything that could help. I am 30 yrs old my wife is 33. We have 3 children total she has 2 from previous I have 1. Our marriage has been tough since day 1 her children are very hard to deal with. This I understand though there teens and I am a step dad.
The problem lies within our sex life which is disappointing to me to say the least. I have an extremely high sex drive. I wish to have sex daily and my wife doesnt seem to have the same desire. I am constantly the one asking or trying to be intimate with my wife . Often I am turned down or told later which never comes. I have told my wife it seems a thousand times how important sex is to me and me being happy in this marriage. Still no change. SHe in 2 years has never initiated sex not one time. Not suprise bj no lingerie no nothing! I pride my self on my fitness so she cant say she isnt attracted to me I am hit on daily by all types of woman. I just want my wife to want me!
She doesnt get how simple we men are. I have tried all avenues to explain to her that I am done I cant handle any more neglect. She isnt stupid and has to understand I have laid it out there so many times. Ive decided she doesnt care. This is even tougher when I know her past and past sexual experiences. Ive asked her to do many things to spice up our sex with toys etc I like to take pics that turns me on but nothing from her just excuses and complaints... She did all sorts of things for her pos ex and I get nothing and I married her. I truly get enraged when I am rejected. Last night she said ill wear my lingerie tonight something she has never worn for me but bought after year of me asking her to. Come bed time nothing she climbed into bed in pj and fell asleep like always. I am pissed and done. I have considered an affair but figure why? Just leave if im not happy. Im young still and good looking I deserve better. What should I do She will likely never change at this point? Does she care? All people that have this issue or any other sexual one seem to end in divorce or cheating. I understand why now> Men are simple and so are our needs. I just need to feel she wants me sometimes and she wont do it. Despite being very sexual in her past relationships she told me that her ex never gave her enough and told me the things she did to try to excite him... I get nothing! Im at the end of my patience what should I do???????
As your wife, she should be taking care of your needs, and in this situation its your high sex drive. She knows this, you've had talks with her about it and she doesn't change or do anything. She is being selfish and not taking care of you out of love.
Sounds like she is a dud and short of divorce papers, nothing will get her to change and be worthy of being in a relationship with you. Put up with her BS or divorce her and find a real woman that has a healthy sex drive and loves taking care of your needs. Many out there.
What you've described sounds like my wifee for the last 13+ years of marriage bliss but we don't have kids yet.
She gave her all for her first hubby and now you are the second one and the effort isn't there anymore. Plus having 3 kids will drain and kill her sex drive, and meds might be required.
If women like yours can't get it through their heads that us men need sex regularly and adventurous, etc., they deserve the consequences, which unfortunately is cheating, affairs and divorce.
When you get married, you are not your own anymore and are to take care of your other halves needs or just stay single.
I feel for yah.
Whether I do little to no chores or the majority of the chores, this doesn't increase my wife's sex drive. She just doesn't have to do chores when she gets home from work later than I do.
I've pretty much ignored my wifee and there is no sex for 1 - 1.5 months. She gets really upset and then forces us to have sex. Not the kind of love and sex I need.