Re: wife who is selfish in bed
You are getting neglected, and I suggest that you start taking control of you sex life.
Can you tell when she is about to orgasm?
Focus on this point and use it to control the "session". You are being to much of a "nice guy" instead of the alphs male in your relationship.
In what I mean is stop letting her finish 1st, it is clear what the out come will be. So get her close and turn the tables, as sh!tty as this sounds, its my only advise on dealing with a selfish love.
Being a selfish lover my self, I can tell you that there is a degree of dominance the other partner needs to show when it comes to gradification.
In my marriage, it didn't dawn on me in what I was doing until my wife started pulling my hair and spanking me. Only then did I see that it wasn't about my own satisfaction. I suggest you start the oral on her, stop and rub your self, then go back to her, a balancing act that may come to a stale mate, but in time her frustration should pan out.
What I mean is once you stop giving her oral, right in the middle, and show her pleasuring your self, she will bail, don't stop...man up and finish your self.
Its a training of sorts that in time, she can join you or not, but the bottom line is you will take control as an alpha male, and at the end you both can be satisfied.
I guess in my case it got me off to watch my W rub one out, so it keep me going. IDK but there has to be a shift in power that words can't discribe, but an act that if your chick wants to finish she is going to have to get you to finish 1st, then her.
I'm wired a little different then most, but I hope our experience helps you and your selfish lover.