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My computer screen is quite far from where I sit so I zoom the computer in to 150 percent, therefore, I can only see one side of the screen at a time. That being said, when I read the quote above, I barked out laughter and I just KNEW it was you! So I went to the other side of the screen, and yep, I knew it.
You crack me up! You are one funny m-fer
of course its me
why sit so far away?
zooming and having to side scroll would drive me fricking bonkers.
why dont you move your azz closer?
I find it hard to believe that a woman would suggest anal first.
I'd lie and say it happens, because she is so big on anal sex she prefers it over the normal now. However, I did mention it first years ago and she hated it. I would try every now and then but she still never really liked it and I just gave up on it. She always kept an open mind but was open about the things she did or didn't like. I did not want to make her do anything that made her miserable, so I quit. Once she hit 35, maybe 5 years after we last tried it, she asked for it herself. No hints, nothing. Since then, she hasn't stopped. Something clicked or she hit her peak. I ask her and she just said, "I always liked it, but I felt dirty and perverted". I guess she got tired of ignoring what she actually liked and let her wild side take over.
Either way, use lube, if she likes it, good on you. Sperming in her anally is the best way for her to absorb all the hormones in your semen. The colon absorbs and does not have the same acids a vagina or stomach has. Some women get high off this release, my wife gets much more aggressive and sexual after.
I'd lie and say it happens, because she is so big on anal sex she prefers it over the normal now. However, I did mention it first years ago and she hated it. I would try every now and then but she still never really liked it and I just gave up on it. She always kept an open mind but was open about the things she did or didn't like. I did not want to make her do anything that made her miserable, so I quit. Once she hit 35, maybe 5 years after we last tried it, she asked for it herself. No hints, nothing. Since then, she hasn't stopped.
This sounds almost exactly like our experience, just minus a few years on the age. We'd discussed it early in our marriage, but weren't on any real rush to make it happen. I asked her one night if I could try my fingers, and she said yes. I used a lot of lube, but it was awkward and uncomfortable for her, so we stopped.
Fast forward about a year or so, and she just out the blue says "let's try". I was so stunned I asked her to repeat. And this time we tried with my penis. She came two or three times that night in a single session. It felt so good I had trouble controlling myself. After that anal sex has become a regular part of our sex life, and her body is very attuned to it. She always cums, and says that the orgasms are different, sometimes more intense.
Turns out she is just extraordinarily sensitive in that area. I'm on the more endowed side, so I don't even get much in, but just being slightly in, or even thrusting right outside, her anus is enough to send her to the moon, and beyond.
*chuckles* That about sums it up. Between Carol and I it was me who suggested it. She's very glad I did. She had original concerns about messiness but once she learned that wasn't really a concern and found out it makes her crazy... well...
But that does bring up another tip. People, quite reasonably, assume all sorts of horrible mess. It doesn't really work out that way for reason which are obvious after you do it. But in the beginning, I made sure there was plenty of towels in, around, and under -- including wet washcloths, etc. That way, at least, she could relax a bit regarding the mess factor.
We're both pretty fastidious in the bedroom, so when I first suggested anal, my husband balked. I convinced him that I would enjoy it (and he might too), so we gave it a shot.
As others have said: lots of lube! We put down a towel that turned out to be unnecessary ... it helped us relax to know we were "covered," but as Jeff/BC pointed out, it's not needed. Anal sex is not the mess you might imagine. In case you're concerned, just use a condom.
Slow is the key. Let her be in control. The way we found that works best is for me to be on top. It's amazing.
They do exist out there... Women who actually like sex and like trying new things. Met my GF online, started off with a "sexual" relationship, and fell in love. It's been a year, so still early, but I am one happy camper!