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I had it done a few years ago. I do kind of regret having it done even though I know I'd rather not have any more children, part of me does. Not enough to get reversed but such is life I guess.
For the OP, you can use non-latex condoms. The poly condoms work very well. I also couldn't use them due to allergies.
We felt the same way, so rather than getting a vasectomy or condoms we left it up to controlled chance.
My wife used to be like clock work with her periods, so we used temperature readings and had sex at the times of the cycle where we were less likely to get pregnant. It's not 100% accurate, but that was the point. If it was meant to be, it was meant to be. So far, since we started timing our sec after the 4th, we've stayed at 4 (youngest is 6 now). Now with my wife in early menopause, looks like I avoided the painful snip.
Using fertility awareness and pull-out method you can have a very successful form of birth control - people are very anti-withdrawl, but seriously, if there is no sperm (if you are using pull-out method properly, ie good control and no going back in again after ejaculating) and there is no egg (ie long enough before ovulation) then conception is impossible.
But why go to all that trouble if he's already had the V? Why take a chance his V was either not effective or hasn't purged all the active sperm, just go get the test it is all too easy. Even if you can't find the cups just call up the clinic/lab/doctor's office and ask for another.
Just go get a couple more cups!! My husband did two sperm counts afterwards. It has been 12 years now, no more babies! BUT one of my friends had a vasectomy and got his wife pregnant 2 years later! Yes, it IS his. Believe me, he checked. And she is no longer his wife because he checked!! And I don't blame her one bit!
Yeah get it tested for sure, get peace of mind since there's medical issues (spine) with your getting pregnant again.
Lon you're right though, my wife is super fertile (first two pregnancies happened after a total of maybe 5 sexual encounters or so) and it worked out well for us. Not that we are Catholic or against birth control, but we took a short class from a local Catholic church on learning how to time sex to minimize pregnancy (as well as using her body temperatures to determine peak fertility). Frankly I don't like condoms much I find them a bit of a mood killer, and they reduce pleasure for me considerably.
On a side note, my wife still takes those temperature readings and her gyno has used them to help diagnose and track what stage of menopause she's in. Just as a minor aside.
Yes, it IS his. Believe me, he checked. And she is no longer his wife because he checked!! And I don't blame her one bit!
Unless there's a better reason than "he checked" sorry that's no grounds for divorce. Why shouldn't he have nagging doubts, he did get the surgery. A woman almost always knows who the father is, a man can never be 100% sure w/o a test.
I have no doubts that my wife has been faithful, but if I had surgery to kill my fertility and she got pregnant years later... sorry I'd have questions too. IMO better to have those doubts removed for his own peace of mind.
You are most definitely playing with fire. The vas deferens (the cords that are snipped) are 12 inches long each, going from the testes into the abdomen before reaching the prostate gland. They are cut fairly close to the testes.
All sperm past the vasectomy site can fertilize an egg. The vas must be cleared out to be sterile. It is not uncommon for men to have sperm 16 weeks after surgery. There is a risk of recanalization (reconnection of the vas) which is most common in the period shortly after surgery.
I most definitely had my sample checked. Some doctors want to see two clear samples before declaring sterility, in fact.
We are not taking that risk. The first test is next week and hopefully my husband is all clear. If not, I will keep taking these yucky pills which leave me bloated.
Although the rhythm method and withdrawal can be effective (We used the pull out method for a few months.) statistically, these methods have much higher failure rates than the Pill, condoms and Depo. That is why traditional Catholic families are often large.