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Old 04-09-2012, 12:43 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My wife is after me to let her do this to me. She acts all aggressive about it. I told her I would order her a strap-on setup so she could but I have not done it yet... She (lovingly) calls me a pu**y and I should "man-up" and order the damn strap-on... She isnt seriously insulting me, it's done in a loving and playful way. I think she really wants to dominate me and "pay me back" for the those times I have asserted my manhood deep inside her and hurt her a little bit (she likes it though)... When she tells me to order one, she's says "get a big one", if I tell her I dont know if I can handle a big one, shes says "I didnt ask if you could handle it, just order a big one... I dont care, you're going to take it anyway..."

I've decided I will be her bit*h .. LOL ... my only concern is how do I stay "ready" ? that kind of sex is not something you stay ready for every day... I mean, I want to be clean and clear in there ya know? Any suggestions?
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Old 04-09-2012, 12:54 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Wow, that is a tough one. I have teased my hubby to about me doing him, if I have to take it in the butt he can too.
It did not go over well. Once he let me use a tiny toy on him, while I gave him head. He wont admit it, but he LOVED it. I have never seen him to amped up, or cum so hard.
As for how to be ready for it don't do something you are not comfortable with. Anal sex can hurt, like nothing you have ever felt if you rush it. (experience from a drunken sex accident, lol)

If it is truly somehting you want to do order something in a reasonable size. Maybe get your own toy, and work it yourself so you know what to expect, and can get use to it.

Also maybe set a designated day when you know you want to try it, so you can be mentally, and pysically ready. You don't have to tell her what day. Just get yourself ready, and then suprise her.
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Old 04-09-2012, 01:14 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm assuming you mean physically ready and not mentally. and also since you do her that way you're not a complete stranger to anal? If I'm not misunderstanding.

Before you two do anything, get an anal sex book, a good one. Everyone is going to have an opinion as to which one is the best, but there are many out there.

Take it slow, have a safe word, lots and lots and lots of lube (the rectum is not naturally lubricated)

And honestly, I would not order a big one, not to start. Yeah, it's fun to joke about anal sex but you or she can cause serious damage (as I'm sure you know) if you aren't careful.

Being poked in the arse for the first time with something the size of Shrek isn't good.

What I was referring when I hurt her a little is normal sex.
She has used a small toy on me before and I do like it, the orgasms are very intense. But if I buy her this strap-on thing, I know she will want to use it alot more than we have ever used the small toy ... I've been lucky that I was "ready" .... I am now wondering how I can stay ready or know the best time to know I am... wierd questions I know... I mean how do gay guys know since thats their main way of having sex?
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Old 04-09-2012, 01:27 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I have realized I have not made myself clear.

I appreciate the information about being ready in the sense that I can take what puts in me....

MY CONCERN is making sure it is a pleasant experience for us. meaning when she puts it in, I want it to come out clean, ya know? Now this is degrading into the nasty post I was trying to avoid. Hmmm, let me put it this way... if the dildo is pink going in, I want it to be pink when it comes out.... get it? Like, should I not eat all day before we plan this or what? embarassing to discuss but it is a legitimate concern....
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Old 04-09-2012, 01:40 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Sorry. Fifty lashes for me with a wet noodle. WELL, I guess you got way more advice from me than you wanted or asked for. LOL The runaway rear end thread.

OK...ahem. That topic will be thoroughly covered in one of those anal books...tips and tricks. There are also a couple of guys on here who can help you out with some good advice about that.

I'm going to go slink back under my rock now and stay there for a while.
Your advice is much appreciated, you shared things I needed to know anyway. I'm just trying to get past this worry first! If I can be confident with my first question being resolved, I will need to know more because my rear is my wife's mission...
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Old 04-09-2012, 02:27 PM   #6 (permalink)
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You are just going to let her shove it in your ass because she wants to?

Better plan a day or two off of work, I doubt you'll be walking so easily and people will be asking you what happened.

You are NOT going to want to tell them the truth.
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Old 04-09-2012, 03:03 PM   #7 (permalink)
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You are just going to let her shove it in your ass because she wants to?

Better plan a day or two off of work, I doubt you'll be walking so easily and people will be asking you what happened.


Really? Women have anal sex without calling in sick or having to explain to everyone around them. If it's done lovingly, you won't need an inflatable donut to sit on. (Although the mental image is cracking me up.... you could tell who is doing what by who is carrying around their donut!)

You know your BM "schedule". If you've already "relieved" yourself then it'll be fine. Or you could give yourself an enema if you think "tonite is the nite!" and it's something you worry about.
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Old 04-09-2012, 03:38 PM   #8 (permalink)
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You are just going to let her shove it in your ass because she wants to?

Better plan a day or two off of work, I doubt you'll be walking so easily and people will be asking you what happened.

You are NOT going to want to tell them the truth.
All the aggressive words are more for her than me I think, I think it makes her horny to talk to me like that. Will she try to dominate me and want a big one? yes... will she be just as happy if I order a smaller one? yes... Does she really want to hurt or damage me? absolutely not ... its a sexual game for her.

Thats why my questions have been about cleanliness... not about being able to accept a large object, etc ....
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Old 04-09-2012, 03:45 PM   #9 (permalink)
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If a wife or girlfriend said the only way she was going to get off was by wearing a strap on and ass****ing me, she'd be sorely disappointed.

What's next, you going to start wearing an apron and cleaning the house?
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Old 04-09-2012, 03:48 PM   #10 (permalink)
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The wife and I have tried anal play, she enjoys me going there, I don't enjoy any thing in me at all! She has tried with just a finger, but damn, long nails hurt! we tried with a toy too, but it hurt like crazy, probably because it was too big. Once it was in, then it was fine as long as she didn't move it.

Not really sure what the point of being on the receiving end is, if I want to feel like I need to take a huge dump while having sex, I can always just hold off on BM for a awhile

If she was really into it for the dom rush, then it would have to be a very little toy!
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Old 04-09-2012, 04:52 PM   #11 (permalink)
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If a wife or girlfriend said the only way she was going to get off was by wearing a strap on and ass****ing me, she'd be sorely disappointed.

What's next, you going to start wearing an apron and cleaning the house?
Not sure which thread you read that in but it was not this one.
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Old 04-09-2012, 05:13 PM   #12 (permalink)
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My GF and I do anal occasionally, and we've picked up a couple of small prostate stimulator type toys for me. We've talked about the cleanliness aspect, and accept the fact that while we've been lucky so far, there is a possibility that one of these days, the pink toy may not come out pink, as you put it. To that end, we usually keep a few dark towels by the bed, ready for action. As well, the "receiver" in question has the right to say "tonight's not a great idea", and that's respected with no hard feelings on either part.

In general though, keeping your diet fairly plain and safe is important. Trying a new Indian restaurant on your date a couple hours before curtain time is not a good idea. Other than that, having a BM, showering, etc is just common sense.

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Old 04-11-2012, 08:14 AM   #13 (permalink)
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If it's bigger than one single finger, I do not enjoy it. I'd do whatever it is my wife wants to do, but hopefully this never makes it on her list. If so, I'd bite a towel and try to keep my yelling quiet. It would be fun to see her aggressive and in total control, but physically, I have no interest in being analed.
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Old 04-12-2012, 10:12 AM   #14 (permalink)
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There are all kinds of strap on's, big one's, tiny one's, some with vibration some without. There strap on's which are double dildo types so she can get off too. So instead of acting like it's out of a horror, porno movie, sex toy. Sit down with her and look at the options, for that matter get 2 or 3 different kinds, you don't f u c k in only one position do you? When I asked my wife to peg me, all I got was, No Way, I am NOT a Lesbian!!!

I would think it would be really hot getting a bl o w job at the same time as getting my butt f u c ked too. Just because she is coming on strong doesn't mean she is out to hurt you, I doubt she is that ugly of a person. How some fun, make it fun, open up your mind to how much fun, it could be doing something she wants. Just the joy of being there with her, while she is doing something she enjoys should be enough.

airplane ... wishing his spouse would wear one for him
Yes, I think it is a role play thing. She treats me like the man of the house. I go out and work hard while she is a stay-at-home mom... so, I think this dominant role play thing gets her horny. Her saying "get a big one" adds to her arousal. Even i get a small one or even refuse... she still gets off on telling me to do it... she likes for me to be very much in charge in bed, which I am... she wants to be in charge for a thrill I guess...
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How funny. I started a thread about this a while back and quite a few people insisted my husband must be gay for liking it.
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