My wife loves vibrators, dildos that vibrate and vibrating eggs used before and during sex. Tonight in the heat of passion she said that her best orgasm is with a vibrator and my hands but then than later took it back after having sex with me and the egg vibe between us. Then she asked me to get a new one, I must admit it's feeling a little insulting. Question is, can women become too dependant on them?
well it depends on how you define healthy. Some women need the vibrator to reach orgasm, just the way their body is.
Can your wife reach it without it?
If you ahve no real issue with it, then it should be no problem. But if she rather have the vib while you are siting there ready to take care of business, well maybe she needs to "pull back" a little bit.
It really depends on what you two are comfortable with.
i think the question is a personal one.
its just whats your wifes likes for her sexual pleasure.
try and enjoy it. i found that i took pleasure in my H enjoying what turned him on.
think of it as a new fetish and train your brain , so you dont feel negative.
I'm going to go against the grain here and say I don't trust the ones with powerful high-speed vibrations. They could cause desensitization, both physically and psychologically.
I would not want my wife using the most powerful ones every day. However as a treat... it's different.
I'm a big fan of non-vibrating dildos. If the woman is into penetration they can get a lot of pleasure out of these, and you can rub her clit at the same time. It takes practise, but you can really get a rhythm going.
Sonny, nothing really wrong here, we use them to, not every time, but as a addition to normal sex( when we are having sex and getting along) Try getting a vibrating ring...we have one and it works for both of us. as long as she doesn't want this everytime, then I agree with everyone. I do think that you should not have one too powerful as it could overcome the normal sensations of love making.
I think vibrators and other toys are like the different moods in sex- different things at different times. As long as it's not the only way she gets off, I wouldn't see a problem with it. Honestly, I have the best, most powerful orgasms when my husband uses a vibrator and his mouth on me together. There is so much stimulation it is overwhelming and incredible. But he can get me off great with nothing but just plain passionate sex too... No toys involved. It just depends on the mood. You also have to remember for many women the best stimulation is external, not internal so the vibration carries throughout the whole area and isn't just something pounding away inside her. Hit the vibrator on the right spot on the clit and it can rock your womans world!! Don't see it as the competition... she isn't replacing you, she's enhancing the whole experience.
It doesn't matter how you get there as long as you both enjoy the ride.
You should be glad to have a wife that is able to express what she wants in bed. Before marrying, I dated women who couldn't and it's aggravating. My wife is very adventurous and I love it. It's fun to mix things up a little.*
Stop worrying and enjoy
*And if you read my other posts you know my wife wants a divorce, but it has nothing to do with our sex life.
I think for a fair number of women that use vibrators they will find that the O's that they get from them are more intense than ones achieved by a hand, sex ect it's nothing to feel insulted about, vibes are more intense and can push a woman over the edge quicker and really make her see god!! I sometimes feel like I am going to pass out with the pleasure form using one its's that intense, however I always make sure H is involved and that he gets his share of vibrations too!
I wouldn't be insulted. My wife uses a couple different ones but doesn't use them all the time. Sometimes I want her to use them more often as her orgasms are much more intense with them. I don't know if it's necessarily good or bad to use them all the time. A lot of women have a difficult time (or simply cannot) orgasm through intercourse without some extra stimulation.
Feel good that you're included in the whole thing. I would be worried and insulted if she was off going solo all the time and didn't want you involved.
I wouldn't be insulted. My wife uses a couple different ones but doesn't use them all the time. Sometimes I want her to use them more often as her orgasms are much more intense with them. I don't know if it's necessarily good or bad to use them all the time. A lot of women have a difficult time (or simply cannot) orgasm through intercourse without some extra stimulation.
Feel good that you're included in the whole thing. I would be worried and insulted if she was off going solo all the time and didn't want you involved.
I think it is hot when your partner is as into using them with you, I just love it
I think it is hot when your partner is as into using them with you, I just love it
No issues here whatsoever as long as I'm involved in some way. My wife is one of the lucky ones who CAN climax during sex, even more easily with oral, but using 'extra help' on occassion is exciting for both of us. The key is balance for us, we don't reach for the toys every time we're intimate as I'm sure doing so could create some issues neither of us would want.
No issues here whatsoever as long as I'm involved in some way. My wife is one of the lucky ones who CAN climax during sex, even more easily with oral, but using 'extra help' on occassion is exciting for both of us. The key is balance for us, we don't reach for the toys every time we're intimate as I'm sure doing so could create some issues neither of us would want.
Can I ask why you think that if you used them everytime that this could create some issues?
She loves vibrators
No issues here whatsoever as long as I'm involved in some way. My wife is one of the lucky ones who CAN climax during sex, even more easily with oral, but using 'extra help' on occassion is exciting for both of us. The key is balance for us, we don't reach for the toys every time we're intimate as I'm sure doing so could create some issues neither of us would want.
