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Old 04-12-2012, 12:37 PM   #1 (permalink)
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My husband loves for me go down on him and I always have to finish him of by jerking him off because I cant stand cum in my mouth. I know that what you eat changes the taste of the cum but I dont think it is the taste that bothers me. Maybe some of it but the problem I have the most is the consistency. A couple years ago I tried it and he tells me I didnt mind it at all. Unfortunately, I dont remember. I tried it again about a year ago and I dont know if it was the cum that hit the back of my throat that made me gag or the cum itself. I really would like to be able to do this for him because I know he would LOVE it. If I can do this for him then I am hoping he returns the favor of something that I would really love from him. I want to know what to do to handle the cum. Do you get used to it? Do you have to think about something else? What should I do?
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Old 04-12-2012, 12:45 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Several other posters have said that they do not like the consistency. What works for me is to have it go deep down the back of my throat so that it bypasses my tongue and I do not taste it. The look of pleasure on my husband's face is heavenly! He also reciprocates, so that is incentive, too.
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Old 04-12-2012, 12:55 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Does it ever make you sick to your stomach?
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Old 04-12-2012, 12:56 PM   #4 (permalink)
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No. I think of it as loving my husband's whole body.
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Old 04-12-2012, 01:06 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I think you are making to much of it. My wife rarely goes down on me and I really do not want her to unless it just comes naturally. Honestly she is not that great at doing it but when she does it I am so turned on because I know she is performing it because she is really turned on. My wife has followed through early on in our marriage but honestly it just does not do much for me. If she wanted to now I would not object but I ain't losing sleep over it. At the end of the day I do not want her to do anything that is going to detract from our intimacy.
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Old 04-12-2012, 01:22 PM   #6 (permalink)
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You need to ask him to taste it too, I just don't get those husbands that think it's OK for their spouse but maybe if they taste and knew maybe they would think, gee I was wrong. My wife hates it, the pre cum is also on her list. I always hear about "my mouth is too small" "I can get my breath" "I am no good at it", just blow me, it feels great, it's tight, it's warm, it's wet and all you've got to worry about is the first 2 inches. Some women just don't get how much it feels good

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I think the more happy successful marriages have a give and take i go down on my wife all the time i love her juices and i love eating her out. Sometimes i have done it to her several times in 1 day for long periods of time.

ive tasted my cum not some thinking i enjoy but its do able i swallowed it. All cause she asked me if i knew what it taste like and i did not so i tried some. She swallows for me but not all the time and i really enjoy it and appreciate it its so hot while she looks at me i think she does it cause i go down on her so much and she is always pleased and happy with that. If i go down on her just randomly and make her orgasm she follows me around wants to please me.

I think that if a man goes down on his woman than his wife should go down on him. Guys have to taste all the vagina juice who is to say it does not taste bad? both cum and vag juice comes from our bodies and if you are with your partner than you should love them and be attracted to them. I think a really big turn off would be if i was getting a bj about to cum and she just said "wait" let me jerk you off so you can finish on my boobs or hands", i mean i like to cum on boobs but its not the same its so much better to finish in the mouth. That would be like a guy eating you out and your about to cum and he says

"dont orgasm while i am eating you out, let me use my fingers instead to finish you off"

^^ how would ladies like that?

Now if you never get eaten out by your husband than i can understand feeling like you deserve it and being upset that you have to do things for him but he wont return the favor. If my wife did not want to swallow it would not kill me, but if i could not cum in her mouth at all it would really suck its such an amazing feeling. Cuming in the mouth and than a woman spitting is not bad she took it in her mouth and the feeling is amazing, swallowing is just a bonus.
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Old 04-12-2012, 01:31 PM   #7 (permalink)
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No. I think of it as loving my husband's whole body.
you sound like a great wife you dont like it but you know it can be tolerable and the fact you want to find a way to like it so you can please your husband is very nice respectable.


my wife used to hate it when we dated she tried it never wanted to do it again (rarely) and would never swallow id usually finish on her body from a bj or bj than sex. After we got married i guess i treat her so well she has started to be way more into my pleasure she is amazing at giving BJ now, never have i had such great ones. I dont watch porn anymore but the women in porn give great bj and i get those type from my wife. She has learned to go past 2 inches in her mouth and i love it she also got more into cum in her mouth and would spit for the longest time but now she swallows whenever i want or sometimes without me asking.
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Old 04-12-2012, 01:48 PM   #8 (permalink)
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My thoughts, as a guy...

My STBXW wasn't going to let me cum in her mouth no way, no how. I accepted that, and could live with it.

My GF will swallow anytime I want to, and even requests that I finish that way sometimes.

While I prefer my GF's approach to BJ's, I think my biggest beef (looking back) with my STBX was that much of our sex life was either focused on her pleasure (oral for her) or mutual pleasure (oral for her, intercourse). There was relatively little focus on it being about me and my pleasure. I'll freely admit that I likely contributed to this, as I didn't realize that aspect was missing as much as it was.

So my suggestion for you, if you really don't want to do the "cum in mouth" thing, is to take care of him and let him cum on you, if that's what you can handle. Your cheek, for example, or breasts. But show him that you get pleasure and enjoy his orgasm as much as he does.

Just my $0.02...

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lovesherman said: The look of pleasure on my husband's face is heavenly!
This is IT right here ! Think on these things in those moments, the waves of sheer pleausure you are giving the man you love, it is an act of pure devotion to give in this way.

It is a fear that is holding you back... worrying about the taste, consistency.... kinda like this book title..." Feel the fear and do it anyway!" ... Heck, it only lasts for a minute or less, that sweet erupting in your mouth... that is not so bad... then just go spit it out, the more you do it, the easier it will become... then you will look back... and think.. Geeze, what was I thinking!

Fear can immobilize us. It took me 19 yrs to even desirously want to give a BJ How pathetic is that! Then after I started doing them, I couldn't get enough of them, then I thought --I need to swallow, I was worried about that... till I started to do that.

It just all gets easier.... and better!
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I think it's just something you get used to the often you do it. I think if you swallow it really quickly without thinking about it, that helps. I'm not crazy about the texture either, but it's all about pleasing the other person right? ..to a point, if you really can't stand it, and you feel like you might barf, then you would need to have a conversation about it.

My stbxh was a big lover of b/j, kind of got annoying sometimes..."hey baby, come here" type of thing.
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Old 04-12-2012, 05:37 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I hate the consistency and texture.

I just swallow immediately to avoid it sitting in my mouth. Keep some sort of tasty beverage by the bed for afterwards too, it helps.
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Had to see for myself, but the url was slightly wrong: Don't Spit, Swallow Cum - Blowjob

Lol and now I know they have a website for everything.
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You need to ask him to taste it too, I just don't get those husbands that think it's OK for their spouse but maybe if they taste and knew maybe they would think, gee I was wrong. My wife hates it, the pre cum is also on her list. I always hear about "my mouth is too small" "I can get my breath" "I am no good at it", just blow me, it feels great, it's tight, it's warm, it's wet and all you've got to worry about is the first 2 inches. Some women just don't get how much it feels good

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I agree with some of this. Not the tasting it himself (ahhhhhhh) or the first 2 inches stuff. I need it to go in a couple more before it starts feeling good.
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I dunno...not trying to belittle anyones feelings (honestly), but I just don't get it. Its just cum? There's like a tablespoon to swallow at most. I can think of a trillion other things that gross me out more. Don't think about it, just swallow it.
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