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I will apologize for ranting here but I am just so fed up with all the excuses.
Been asking wife to go down on her for the last week.. just give her pleasure no asking for sex, bj, or anything for me. All her. I love her scent and really love to give her pleasure!
She still puts me off with excuse after excuse.
By the way "I have a headache". I said ok and got her some headache medicine and gave her a back and neck rub, then rubbed her forehead and temples.
I leave her alone with lights off while she is watching TV. I go back in about 30 minutes later and she has her laptop on and her cell phone in hand. I monitored it for the next hour just to make sure she was not taking a quick glance.
Now I know when I have a headache that looking at a computer screen and or phone screen is painful and I cannot stand it.
I call "bulls_--@#$@!
Am I missing something here? I have already started a 180 but I am about to kick it up a notch!
There's something about her that is making her say no. I don't care for having it done either, but I wouldn't say no to hubs if he wanted to...but i wanna clean first.
Have you been successful in bringing her to orgasm in the past via oral sex? Oral sex produces the best orgasms for many women, but there are men who do not know how to do that. I'm just wondering if that is the reason she is not interested. If you are a master of giving a woman an orgasm through oral sex, then I can't imagine why she would turn it down.
Does she know how to orgasm? Some women don't, and they find that hard to admit. If she thinks that oral is disgusting, you will have a hard time changing that perception. Will she accept your fingers instead? Have you tried toys with her? Giving a massage first?
She either doesn't like sex, or she has some resentments about you that you need to discuss with her. No medical problems? I would have a sit-down heart-to-heart with her about what is going on. You can't fix what you don't acknowledge.
Since you said you want to give her pleasure why don't you just do something she wants you to do? Since she doesn't want you to give her oral sex maybe just understand how she feels and do something she wants and finds pleasurable sexually. Posted via The Planet Mars
Since you said you want to give her pleasure why don't you just do something she wants you to do? Since she doesn't want you to give her oral sex you should respect how she feels and do something she wants and finds pleasurable. Posted via Mobile Device
Offer to clean the toilets. I'll bet you good money that you putting on rubber gloves and reaching for the bog brush and bleach doesn't trigger a headache...
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What's Weshenjuggalslomomengreskeytemskeytudlogueri? I don't know what you say, brother.
Then you don't jin Romani chib...
Has she always been this way about oral? Or is this new?
Some women do not like it. And some can't get enough of it.
Have you told her how this is making you feel?
It has never been real easy to convince her of anything sexual, but when she does it she likes it. She has some severe hangups and I honestly don't know why. She won't ever give me any straight answers.
I have told her many times how I feel.
There's something about her that is making her say no. I don't care for having it done either, but I wouldn't say no to hubs if he wanted to...but i wanna clean first.
No issues down there at all.. she is like you though it has to be clean. I just don't understand why the planets have to align, skies part, rays shine on us to make it happen.
Have you been successful in bringing her to orgasm in the past via oral sex? Oral sex produces the best orgasms for many women, but there are men who do not know how to do that. I'm just wondering if that is the reason she is not interested. If you are a master of giving a woman an orgasm through oral sex, then I can't imagine why she would turn it down.
Done it many times in the past and she definitely had very good orgasms. I wouldn't call myself a master but I know my way around her vjay jay and cl_- to make her crazy.
Does she know how to orgasm? Some women don't, and they find that hard to admit. If she thinks that oral is disgusting, you will have a hard time changing that perception. Will she accept your fingers instead? Have you tried toys with her? Giving a massage first?
She either doesn't like sex, or she has some resentments about you that you need to discuss with her. No medical problems? I would have a sit-down heart-to-heart with her about what is going on. You can't fix what you don't acknowledge.
She know how to.. maybe she does think it's disgusting. No fingers, tried toys in the past but no go now.
I always have to give a massage to get anything, a prerequisite to anything sexual.
No medical problems that I know of.. conversation will not work. Have had 20+ years of conversations.
Since you said you want to give her pleasure why don't you just do something she wants you to do? Since she doesn't want you to give her oral sex maybe just understand how she feels and do something she wants and finds pleasurable sexually. Posted via The Planet Mars
Offer to clean the toilets. I'll bet you good money that you putting on rubber gloves and reaching for the bog brush and bleach doesn't trigger a headache...
I will take the bet... I have cleaned everthing hundreds of times and nada. Not even a thank you!
I would be so grateful for a husband eager to make love with me. I sympathize with all the men that have been sexually rejected and I hope your situation improves. He doesn't find me attractive since I have gained 35 lbs. But....he has peyronies disease and feels like he has lost his manhood. :The joy of sex has been taken out of our marriage. I do not look forward to no sex, affection, kisses, or hugs the rest of my life. I just returned from a 2-month separation and he doesn't seem to be too happy that I am back. I am becoming numb. We've been married 14 years and I have made plenty of mistakes with him. I am working on my character defects. Yet, he doesn't want us to divorce. We both have been faithful to each other as far as I know. Has anyone dealt with Peyronies disease? He gets painful erections.
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Can you rokker Romani chib, pal? Aye, aye, brother!
What's Weshenjuggalslomomengreskeytemskeytudlogueri? I don't know what you say, brother.
Then you don't jin Romani chib...
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Turning down pleasure.. I just don't get it. 
