You couldn't just walk away could you?
Had to get that parting shot.
Sweetie you have no idea. Where do you think these men here came from? You think your beloved husband is DIFFERENT than all the men here?
That's not a parting shot, it the truth. You don't like to hear it and that's too bad. She said what she said and she is right. The result of her posting here has been positive. She got many supportive post and suggestions.
She did not get a a bunch of people telling her she is abnormal and that is key. She is not abnormal and neither is her husband. What she has is a very common dynamic. If it is handled correctly at this early point in the marriage, things will go relatively smoothly.
Being told that her husbands needs are paramount and that he will cheat or divorce her is not convincing or helpful or even thrustful. It is an attempt to coerce and wishful thinking. She should be punished because she does not want sex 5 times a week?
She can expect her libido to ramp up in time. She needs to know that so that she can whether this period as temporary. This is exactly why we need more LD woman posting. We all learn something.
M - Why do you feel that you have earned some superior standing that gives you the right to decide who says what? You see her as some kind of underling that should walk away like a child and say nothing in return. Really? Why because you are righteous? Says who?
Actually, your nastiness and condescension help's in ways that I am certain you cannot see. You should feel very fortunate to have a man like your husband Marie.
Supercilious, reactionary and angry is not an attractive combination in a man. Probably not recognized by him as a problem in his relationship.
Reading some of the hard, holier than thou, man's burden is woman type reactionary post to woman like Marie makes me appreciate my husband too. It also makes me wonder if their attitude is the reason their wives don't like to be touched by them.
I am glad you posted Marie and I know things will get better in your marriage. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you or your husband.
When you start to think in terms of who is normal and whose needs are superior, then go to therapy. As long as you stay flexible and certain that you are both OK then you have a chance to resolve conflicts and differences.
The good news is that sex will get better for you both in the future as you get older.
The very best of luck.