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View Poll Results: How often do men's sex drives kick in
Men, how often does your sex drive kick in (not just the desire for a stress release, but a real drive to have sex with your wife)?
Wives, how often does your husband show you his sex drive is fired up?
I asked my H this question last night.
He said at LEAST once every day he feels 'the urge' (typically more often than that, though) ... but it's not always at a most convenient time. I guess sitting there at work or working out in the gym is not the most convenient of times.
He certainly doesn't show me that all of the time ... half the time I'm likely not even there with him and he is 'reminiscing' about one of our previous encounters.
We usually are playful in a sexual way most everyday ... even if we don't have sex that day.
Yeah it doesn't come at the best times. Though when I'm in the mood I generally let me know in the form of a very passionate kiss... which isn't hard given how I feel in those moments.
My wife jokes that the sexiest thing I find about her is that she's breathing.
Yeah it doesn't come at the best times. Though when I'm in the mood I generally let me know in the form of a very passionate kiss... which isn't hard given how I feel in those moments.
My wife jokes that the sexiest thing I find about her is that she's breathing.
Absolutely!!! That's where we are. He doesn't like it as it means he's getting older to which I tell him lovingly to shut up and let me take charge.
I've got enough drive for both of us. LOL
This is very true...However, you must handle this situation with care...He must remain in his eyes the hot stud and not a man in need...Again going to bed naked is a turn on...You can only take charge so much and then transfer this thought to him...He must believe in himself...
Far too many not only lose hope, but faith in themselves...This is where the lover takes over...Believe it or not, my husband knows and thinks he is a hot man....He now has this new thing going...Before we have sex (which is usually in the master bedroom) I pee...This is in the separate area of the bathroom...I will be doing my thing and he now has chose to come in naked and stand in front of me with a big hot erection and stuff his manhood in my mouth to be sucked off...This is new...I love it...It has shown me that all my work has paid off and that his confidence is back....He is really quite a guy....
IMO, a man must watch his diet...Don't gain weight...Weight is a handicap...Watch the carbos....All play a part in having a wonderful and hot older sex life...Seeing we are 75 and he 76, I believe we qualify for this....
I am going to add this post to my Long Term Thread here...It is time that I let it all hang out about how neat older age can be...Take care..
This is very true...However, you must handle this situation with care...He must remain in his eyes the hot stud and not a man in need.
I'm doing my best to handle with care and I'm showing him how much I want him (easy because it's true). I've just recently gotten him comfortable to let me know when he wants sex but needs help getting erect. I think that's a good thing because before he'd just roll over and go to sleep. This is all new so I'm happy he's communicating and opening up.
I've got a ways to go before I get to where you are but I'm seeing improvements everyday. He seems happier and I've got a brand new husband.
Edited to add: His 'problem' may not be due to aging but due to my past treatment of him. I'm aware of that possibility. Either way we are working through it and I'm doing everything in my power to be a good wife.
This is very true...However, you must handle this situation with care...He must remain in his eyes the hot stud and not a man in need...Again going to bed naked is a turn on...You can only take charge so much and then transfer this thought to him...He must believe in himself...
Far too many not only lose hope, but faith in themselves...This is where the lover takes over...Believe it or not, my husband knows and thinks he is a hot man....He now has this new thing going...Before we have sex (which is usually in the master bedroom) I pee...This is in the separate area of the bathroom...I will be doing my thing and he now has chose to come in naked and stand in front of me with a big hot erection and stuff his manhood in my mouth to be sucked off...This is new...I love it...It has shown me that all my work has paid off and that his confidence is back....He is really quite a guy....
IMO, a man must watch his diet...Don't gain weight...Weight is a handicap...Watch the carbos....All play a part in having a wonderful and hot older sex life...Seeing we are 75 and he 76, I believe we qualify for this....
I am going to add this post to my Long Term Thread here...It is time that I let it all hang out about how neat older age can be...Take care..
When I walk in while my wife is on the toilet she just says get that thing away from me...
I stole LadyFrogs line and told my husband if he wiggles it near me its going in my mouth.
......he wiggled. LOL
Great erotic words to use on your lover...Make him feel as well as know that he is a wanted sex object...That what he has between his legs is what makes you whole...That more than anything without him you are but a shell of a woman....and you must plain adore him body and soul...Take care...
When I walk in while my wife is on the toilet she just says get that thing away from me...
What I speak about is not the activity that only happens with a woman in porn or low life....This is hot sex....The kind that makes you tick...And may I add makes a man adore you....
I'm doing my best to handle with care and I'm showing him how much I want him (easy because it's true). I've just recently gotten him comfortable to let me know when he wants sex but needs help getting erect. I think that's a good thing because before he'd just roll over and go to sleep. This is all new so I'm happy he's communicating and opening up.
I've got a ways to go before I get to where you are but I'm seeing improvements everyday. He seems happier and I've got a brand new husband.
Edited to add: His 'problem' may not be due to aging but due to my past treatment of him. I'm aware of that possibility. Either way we are working through it and I'm doing everything in my power to be a good wife.
Hi again: You must make him believe in himself...Treat him like you did when you first met...Don't change...Make him trust you...If he loses his erection and you see it happening tell him that you need more c*** or your choice of words...As for me I love to get down and dirty....If I see him losing it I find an excuse or words to bring him back to life...There are so many ways to do this......This will take time, but the results are worth their weight in gold...
I believe a woman has a lot to do with her husband/partners sex drive,,,He has to feel wanted to perform or even to approach her....If he is consistently refused then an important part of himself will die out....Actually the best part....He must be made to feel as special as a woman when they are making love...She must stimulate him, just as he does her....These are just my thoughts...Take care...
I believe a woman has a lot to do with her husband/partners sex drive,,,He has to feel wanted to perform or even to approach her....If he is consistently refused then an important part of himself will die out....Actually the best part....He must be made to feel as special as a woman when they are making love...She must stimulate him, just as he does her....These are just my thoughts...Take care...
Wise words and yes I see this now. I always thought my husband didn't have much of a sex drive and I realize now I was wrong. So very very wrong.
If I make him feel wanted all day long his drive is just fine.
Wise words and yes I see this now. I always thought my husband didn't have much of a sex drive and I realize now I was wrong. So very very wrong.
If I make him feel wanted all day long his drive is just fine.
Can I change my answer to this poll? LOL
Honey, you are his staff of life...He will live as long as he feels wanted...Sexual Intercourse is not only the joining of bodies, but the uniting of souls....This is what makes us all so special....Lord, mine thinks he is in his second childhood....My best to you....Caroline
I am fully aware thata man's Testosterone level may be lower or some medication could play a part in this happening...But, I also know that men can read on a bottle that this may affect their sexual dysfunction and just like that they no longer can get an erection...The same thing can happen with a woman on anti-depressants...Many do not realize that in the survey that it just takes a few people to make this writing appear...It is up to the person themselves to go where this takes them...In our life my husband has been treated with a chemo type drug with a skin problem...We knew this and he and I both read it, but decided to forget about it....This was nine years ago...Saying this, it never affected him...But I am speaking of one person...What I am saying is that, IMO, a sex drive on an aging man, and I consider this over 50, is dictated by the spouse...Sure we all slow down, but one of the two people must take up the slack to make the completion of this love making that is important to both of them...If they never cared to start, then go their way...As for us, we dig it...These are just my thoughts and I will now get lost....Take care...
As a man ages his sex drive decreases...This can start as early as his late 20's....This is where nature messes with the sexes...When this happens, it is time for the wife/partner to pick up the slack...Time for her to be the "come and get me" tease and go to bed naked......Time to let him know what a hot stud that he still is....Baby him...Praise his bedroom style...Use some hot erotic words of lust to bring him on....There are so many ways to do this and it is so darn much fun....
We are older, yet I have noticed the differene after he has had hot sex...I have found like a woman feels, that it too, makes him feel so young....Take care...
Although I like your ideas, I'd have to say that I disagree with your initial point of a declining sex drive. Being a 41 year old man, I find that my sex drive is as strong as ever and frankly I don't remember it waning. In my case it is my wife who's in her late 30's who is experiencing a decreasing sex drive. Maybe I'm one of a kind but I doubt it.
Yeah.. I guess I am one of the creepy old guys here. Im almost 48, and my wife is 46. I am definitely afflicted with a chronic case of matuto ligni, or morning wood. (OK, I made the latin translation up)
The good news is that the wife has always been (I thank my lucky stars) on the same wavelength in that respect, so we have groggy, sleepy, slow, comfortable morning sex maybe 5-6 times a week? Maybe 4-5 would be more accurate. Been that way for 20 years.
But yeah - so far, declining or waning? Havent seen that.. thankfully. I guess when I was in my early 20s, there was hardly a time when I wasnt 'ready to go', but things are still pretty... uhm... robust.
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