Sex in MarriageSexual problems are common in many relationships. This section is for discussions about sexuality. Please limit discussions to those asking for help with a problem and those offering advice. Any other threads may be deleted.
Have,
This is a much bigger issue with most women than you might expect.
The woman in a sexless marriage who posted that her H was handsome and succuessful had a huge problem with his:
- oral til I come
- he gets some oral
- he then has intercourse that has never lasted even a minute - usually more like 10 seconds
There are lots of ways to increase stamina. Separate from that you really don't grasp that you are creating a negative association for her:
- she has just finished
- it is very brief
Clearly there is anpartnof your interaction she dislikes. You seem afraid to ask.
OTE=Havesomethingtosay;681959]I am posting and commenting on what I read here. There is a poll on how long you last.... I fall short miserably... There wasn't even even a place to answer "two pump chump"......
Have,
This is a much bigger issue with most women than you might expect.
The woman in a sexless marriage who posted that her H was handsome and succuessful had a huge problem with his:
- oral til I come
- he gets some oral
- he then has intercourse that has never lasted even a minute - usually more like 10 seconds
There are lots of ways to increase stamina. Separate from that you really don't grasp that you are creating a negative association for her:
- she has just finished
- it is very brief
Clearly there is anpartnof your interaction she dislikes. You seem afraid to ask.
OTE=Havesomethingtosay;681959]I am posting and commenting on what I read here. There is a poll on how long you last.... I fall short miserably... There wasn't even even a place to answer "two pump chump"......
I was using a compilation of what I read on TAM..... Trust me you don't need to search hard to find it.....
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Mem11363 what are you referring too? I was having fun and referring to two threads above. As for the long thread about the woman wanting sex 1X/mth that is a different story and the issues run so deep..... I was only using it as an example in the OP as to what I am saying and people's reaction. The fact that her husband can't last on top of her not wanting sex (if that is what she wrote somewhere in the 250 posts) again proves the point of this thread that no cares about that fact or commented on it.
DTO,
I really felt my wife wanted, needed, demanded a lot. And equally that she gave, offered, did a lot.
Probably the biggest single difference between my response to bad behavior and very one sided comments was speed. There was no - gee that is grossly unfair and we will talk about it on e or twice a year for the next decade until you realize I am right.
The worst example was when she found a volunteer job she loved. And I sat her down and said: glad you love it, I will support you open ended provided you mostly figure out how to do you sahm stuff. And I added, I know you dislike written to do lists, without one it may be very difficult to keep up with everything.
And she flat out said "I am not going to keep a written to do list"
A month later i said she could finish the current project, I would be supportive (it was a couple months), and after that she needed to stop.
And we spent 2 months going round in a circle "her: you aren't supporting me, I have alwas supported your job"
"me: we need my job to live, you are choosin to not be organized, and then laying that at my door"
End of the project she brought up signing up for the next one.
I said only two words "I'll file".
I am sure she resented me/that. If that had spilled into the bedroom - same result.
At a certain point you draw a bright line in the sand and your partner decides if they want to stay married.
FYI: I am resentful this even happened. It was a blatant attempt to totally ignore me as an equal partner in te marriage.
QUOTE=DTO;681757]I, for one, totally hear what you are saying. But your post sounds like your husband was lacking in several other areas. By contrast, the OP linked to a post where the wife admits he is a great guy yet she still wants to cut him way down. So, in a way it sounds like two different issues.
In your case, it's important to ask whether you would have been okay with your husband keeping his non-sexual service to you at the same level as your sexual service to him. Would you be okay with him talking about your life weekly, for instance?
The problem that I see often is that many times the answer to that question is "no". The woman has this admittedly great husband, except that he wants too much sex. Eventually the discussion turns to "you BOTH are getting lots of what you want right now; you can change if you want but you risk getting less as you give less".
At that point, many women (including that link) become indignant. They deny that their husbands also sacrifice and do things they don't want. Or they assert that sex is somehow different than the normal marital give and take. Or they assert that the man should be the main sacrificer and the woman is entitled to not try as hard or give as much.[/QUOTE] Posted via Mobile Device
I know, Have...I was just messing around. I don't normally take polls and I try not to put a lot of stock in any of them.
For my relationship, it varies. Some weeks we spork more than others. But it's always good. And I don't spend a lot of time searching threads about it because fortunately it's not an issue for us. I just think there's too much pressure for people to do what's allegedly considered "normal"
I saw this couple on tv once wanting to know from Dr. Phil if four-five times a day was normal. His answer was, it if works for you guys, go for it. Rabbits must have looked at them in amazement.
I don't keep track. If dh says, "I'm gonna cum!", I don't say, "No, NO DON'T, you can't!! You've only thrusted forty-seven times and I've only had one and a half orgasms!!"
I know sarcasm and messing around..... I just wanted to clarify some stuff that didn't need to be......
I don't have to be careful of them, or of myself, if I'm one of the ones to whom you are referring. They either really do have great sex lives and like to talk about it, or they don't and pretending they do is a fantasy for them. Either way, how does it hurt?
I joke about sex alot because I have a skewed sense of humor and frankly, body parts are funny. Am I immature that way? Sure I am; don't deny it. I'm a big old kid. But I can joke around with my younger sons and we have a ball. Life is short.
I post in the Sex in Marriage forum because its a forum about sex and I fortunately have had and continue to get to have sex.
He's in a bad mood. Mrs. C refuses to bl*w him until December and he's in a testosterone war with the Easter Bunny. They are accusing each other of letter intercepting and egg tampering.
Mrs. C got pregnant last year and Santa thought he was the baby's father until the baby came out looking like a big easter egg.
Ah, home from church. I prayed for world peace, forgiveness, my sanity, AR's turtle and the power to understand how the thermodynamic process unwinds itself inside Entropy's avatar.
I time dh with a stopwatch. If he ever falls under 17 minutes, 6.8 seconds, I tear into him like a chimp on a caramel banana.
If dh "sticks" it close to me, then it'll probably get sucked. He should know better than to dangle a worm near a trout. It's not like he whips it out in the middle of Burger King.
I am a rich, lazy, bored, stoopid housewife whose husband works and has a long commute and children are in school all day. So other than lobbying to get Martha Stewart off the air permanently I have nothing to do. My alter-ego is the Bad@ss Blonde Bimbette from Planet Babblec*ck, sent here to rid the world of bl*wjoblessness.
Speaking of bl*wjobs, dh gets six hundred and thirty-four of them in five days. I'm really quite tired.
Dh could not last sixty minutes. My pflaume is simply too hot and melts his p*nis.
Seriously, who cums up with this nonsense? Timed intercourse? Pornstar sex? I don't measure my sex life against how often others are doing the happy hyena.
As long as I clutch the sheets and yell, "My world is ending, baby! I see polka-dot squirrels on bicycles all around me!" at least once, I'm good.
Good God! Where do you buy your lube.... from NASA???? I wouldn't worry about blisters so much as I would starting a fire in there
Seriously what is the point of this thread? If you want more sex then work it out with your spouse... do something productive instead of complaining about lack of sex, but don't hate on others who love it and need it more often.
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