Havesomethingtosay

I've come to the realization that so many people here are plain obsessed about it. The amount of discussion and posts where people think anything less then daily sex is sexless amazes me.

A poor women, who needs professional help to at least see where things stand and where her issues lie because she wants and enjoys sex 1X/mth and yet is doing it 20X's/mth as a good wife is met with derision. I read how terrible a person she is and her poor spouse........

I read continual threads where people are upset if they are having sex less then daily. Who are you people????

I feel like a freak wishing for sex 2-3x's/wk and thinking how content I'd be. Heck not sure if I could keep up with daily sex or whether it would be fun after a while. Add to that I read that I probably need testosterone shots, because I don't want it more.

Trust me, my spouse would be aghast reading how much sex people on here are having (or expect). Add to that everyone expecting pornstar sex lasting hours, multiple orgasms, and all the men lasting 10-60 minutes on average.

Do you have time for work, family, hobbies and time to read and respond to 20 different threads too on TAM???

tacoma

I haven't a clue what you're talking about.

I have never seen a post here where anyone implies anything less than daily sex is sexless.

Where is this posted?
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lovesherman

It has been my impression that people on TAM say they average 2-3 times a week. Here is a thread with a poll:

Talk About Marriage - View Poll Results

Cherry

Haven't you seen the most recent "how often" poll? Something like 2-3/week average from those TAM members responding.

I've never felt all the members have sex daily, or even suggest that is the norm.

Edited to add... lovesherman beat me to it
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Havesomethingtosay

I am trying to just have fun.... Of course no says that.... However the # on here who claim daily is not out of the ordinary is skewed.

Add to that those who give advise that if you don't want it, then just blow him if he sticks his **** near you I find offensive.

Conrad

When I read your posts, it just seems like you are really troubled and angry.

What was your childhood like?

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CandieGirl

As to those having daily sex (multiple times at that!) you know what the old saying is...it's those who talk about it so much that aren't doing it.

Tamar456

Hey, that's true! I've been reading this thread for a long time, and it seems that everyone's lives here revolve around sex. Why would a person with a normal sexuality even bother to show up here?

But OP: as that is the case, people will not admit it here.

Mistys dad

I'm obsessed with sex.

Your welcome.

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Cee Paul

In my honest opinion as a 46 year old man who used to do the same thing back in my late teens to maybe late 20's before I grew up, there's A LOT of fabricating going on on here and in many other places and I just take it all with a grain of salt and laugh a little.

*You can pretty much tell who is in their late teens to maybe late 20's on here without them saying a word about age*

Mrs.K

This is the SEX IN MARRIAGE board! Of course all the topics are going to be about sex.

I don't see members here obsessed with sex. I see people trying to improve their sex lives and strengthen their marriages.

Everyone has a right to their opinion but starting a post like this is senseless.

Havesomethingtosay

I just think that there really is an unrealistic view about what is normal on TAM and the advise given.

Here is a thread where two younger women claim wanting it daily with their older husbands.

Younger woman, older man...

Of course they do not fully understand it is the age difference that is the issue.

Any post from a woman who talks about her spouse wanting too much sex is met with what SHE NEEDS TO DO and that she should GIVE BJ's to make up for the gap. Seldom is it said that heck yep he should be okay 1-2X/wk of quality fun sex.

I want sex once a month - why should I have it more often?

Fine don't agree with me..... I just was making an observation based on what I have read and yes did exaggerate the point for effect.

lovesherman

I don't find that people on this board are obsessed with sex. It is a wonderful place to hear honest discussion of the issues that people confront in their marriages. It is true that people with happy sex lives are in the minority here because the unhappy ones were moved to seek advice and so found this forum.

Sex is huge in marriage; it is the only relationship in our lives where it is expressed. It is how we love each other, and one of the greatest pleasures that we can experience in life.

discouraged1

I am obsessed with sex... take me to the BEAVER! Whoops meant leader. Ha!

PBear

Sex is only 10% of a marriage. Unless you're not getting enough. Then it's 90%.

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