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I have been married for couple of years.
My husband wanted to have oral sex. but i just hate it.
I was just wondering whether everyone usually does it?
I'm not big on oral, but I do it to please him. My hubby on the other hand loves to give me oral. It gets us in the mood for sex. If you absolutely hate giving oral, then try other techniques that he loves and will satisfy him.
Yah ... knowing which direction we're talking about might be beneficial.
Oral sex is usually a personal preference thing...and sometimes it's also something that you can learn and get over hang-ups over if you have them ... if you have a loving and caring spouse that you also love and respect...and if you have an open and generous heart and mind.
What is it that you don't like about it?
Do you ever discuss it with your husband?
Do you have a varied sex life in other ways - are you both generally sexually satisfied?
Assuming he showers daily, if you are worried about it have him wear boxers. They keep things more dry down below, might decrease your aversion to trying.
Well, it's probably no less hygenic than the mouth, which is one of most unhygienic areas.
You could wash/shower together, you could try it in the shower, you could wash him prior as part of the experience.
You can start out slow ... stroking and kissing it, then slowly moving to taking it in your mouth ... for longer periods of time or by trying to take a little more in.
Most husbands are highly appreciative of their wife appreciating their manhood... and they are highly appreciative of efforts that are made to show that appreciation.
There are three types of body parts/fluids: 1. sterile 2. clean (no disease causing organisms if healthy) 3. dirty (has disease causing organisms like harmful bacteria (not all bacteria is harmful). This is all assuming that the body is healthy.
Where so you think urine falls? #1, sterile. The penis is clean (it will have bacteria, but not any that cause disease) like any other skin on the body. In fact, the penis is cleaner than the mouth and you kiss him don't you? Your vagina? #2 clean. The anal area is the only part of the body that is #3. It does have disease causing bacteria. So if your only objection is that it is not clean, you have been biologically educated.
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The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:2 (The Message)
My wife and I do it all the time and we both enjoy it.
Like someone else mentioned, it's actually more hygienic than kissing, especially if he's recently showered. That includes letting him climax in your mouth, though I'm sure that he'd really love some stimulation in your mouth without climaxing.
We're taught that that part of the body is "dirty," but it really isn't. We exchange bodily fluids when we kiss, too. My wife and I aren't squeamish about it.
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