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Old 04-20-2012, 11:49 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Yep. It's his frenulum. Male cl*t.
I thought the penis was pretty much the male clit!!!

I've yet to find a spot on it that I don't like to have touched or licked or whatever!
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Sounds like you took that as a challenge.
Pretty much!
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One reason we love BJs is for variety. You can make him feel things with your tongue that he will never feel during sex.

Alternate between playing with the tip and taking it all in. Totally different sensations!

My boys like a bit of attention - but nothing rough.

I can totally relate to the "molars" thing! Firm but gentle! Leaves me with this oddly wonderful "sore" feeling the next day which serves as a very nice reminder!

And finally - enthusiasm, enthusiasm, enthusiasm!!!

I just love a great BJ thread! Really warms my heart!!!
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Old 04-20-2012, 12:11 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Don't forget to stop now and then, keep rubbing the head and shaft with your hand, and talk dirty to him. Especially tell him how hot its getting you and how hard you can feel him getting. Egg him on - with talk about how you can feel him building up, and how that's working you up even more.

Moan a little bit yourself.

For me, my partner's pleasure is a huge turn on.
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Old 04-20-2012, 12:12 PM   #35 (permalink)
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I guess I'm a bit different here... Running hands along the thighs and glutes, oh boy! Please leave the boys alone however....

Gently cupped, ok, but not a turn on. Licking, sucking, or anything OTHER than that..... doesn't even feel good.
i am pretty much the same.

gently licking is good, cupping or very gently rubbing is good.
DO NOT like them sucked on or rubbed roughly.
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Old 04-20-2012, 12:15 PM   #36 (permalink)
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I may be unusual but I've never once gotten off by oral alone. Close often times, but it feels like I get close and then it just stays there... close but no climax. Not sure if that's technique, physiology or if it's all in my mind.
i WAS the same way but i never even got close.

that changed with my last exgf.
she was the only one with the right skillz to get me off by oral alone, i mean no hand action at all, all mouth. mmm
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Old 04-20-2012, 02:31 PM   #37 (permalink)
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My husband was like this until he met me Even in the beginning of us, he swore he doesn't finish by BJ alone.

Yea. I totally changed that.
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i WAS the same way but i never even got close.

that changed with my last exgf.
she was the only one with the right skillz to get me off by oral alone, i mean no hand action at all, all mouth. mmm
Thanks you two, looks like my wife and I have some more things to try out. Gee whiz gonna be tough to be the guinea pig.
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Old 04-20-2012, 07:09 PM   #38 (permalink)
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One big mistake both sexes make with the pace of oral sex is they do it like they would like it done to them. That's great if you're gay, but if not it doesn't work so well. Women like to be taken right up to the edge of release and then dwell there with carefully adjusted pressure and timing. Doing that to a man will make him nuts. There is a point somewhere around 80% of the way there where he just wants to shoot. To reduce stimulation there doesn't result in a better orgasm, it results in less. Up to that point, the slower you do it the stronger it will be. Sorry, we're tricky. The way to tell if he won't vocalize is that is the point where he's going to start pushing or wiggling. From there, get the job done so to speak.

Now before that point where he just wants to get off you have a big control over how big the orgasm is. Use this to your advantage. If you want some in return RIGHT AWAY, don't dwell there. Take him through quick and while the orgasm isn't as strong, he's going to want to be quick and aggressive with you. On the other hand, if you linger there for long enough, he's going to be spent. He's just going to want to snuggle and hug for a long while.

You got good advice already on where to stimulate a man early. Tongue play around the frenulum (the triangle on the bottom of the head) and around the rim is heaven.

Once you get further along, it is the feeling of thrusting that takes a man further along. If you want a quicker pace, use a hand under your mouth. BTW, don't slide around on a man without lubrication. Your spit works good or use a lube; or just move the skin up and down without sliding over the skin. Since men don't self lubricate, it doesn't take much to cause a bit of chafing.

If you really want to pick up the pace, concentrate your lips around the bottom of the head. When you move your hand up and down it will pop the rim in and out. You can move your hand WAY faster than you can bob your head. I bet you'll be surprise just how fast you can get the job done doing this. Again, use it to your advantage based on what you want to do next.

And at last some on finishing:

This goes to the basic urge for sex that men have. They do have a strong desire to plant their seed. Since pulling out during orgasm doesn't do that, there is a strong desire to feel like it is in deep during orgasm. When he starts orgasming, don't stroke and most of all don't slide around on the head. You've probably already found out about that during intercourse if you're really close when he goes. Sorry, it is just rather unpleasant to stimulate the head during orgasm and he's going to pull back, which goes against the strongest desire during orgasm.

The most important point is that if you're going to move your mouth off, don't suck or pull on the way off. Open and then move away without making it feel like pulling out. If you're gong to leave it in there, put the end against the roof of your mouth and put a little pressure on. (oh, and he's a lucky SOB if you do )

If you do pull out, put your hand around the shaft and then put your thumb on the head. Push down a bit while he's shooting. MAKE SURE you don't PLUG THE END WITH YOUR THUMB THOUGH. That's bad, it over-pressures the plumbing in a very bad way. Finally use your other hand to push down a bit on his pubic area.

And all this time I've been treating hand action as a thing not to do.

thanks for such a detailed answer you brought up several things I hadn't even thought of

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Old 04-20-2012, 07:22 PM   #39 (permalink)
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Yep I'm enthusiastic. I touch myself and do this little dance with him in my mouth. It's limiting but it is a dance.

So when I take my husband in my mouth I do a combination of sucking, deep throat and some male clit attention.

Oh and when I do deep throat I don't think it counts unless my lips are at the base of his penis. I try to get the whole thing and keep it in for a certain amount of time. During this time I use my hands to grab all over him. I haven't yet asked him how he feels about it (me grabbing his body) but have assumed that he likes it.

Sometimes I like to have intercourse first because my cum tastes sweet and when he is in my mouth he tastes sweet. Than i'm usually saying mmmmmm for 2 reasons. lol

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One of his favs is me flat on my back, head hanging off edge of bed, deep throat with lots of sucking in between finished with swallowing. Bjs are my thing, love, love, love giving them!
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One of his favs is me flat on my back, head hanging off edge of bed, deep throat with lots of sucking in between finished with swallowing. Bjs are my thing, love, love, love giving them!
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Also - in that position - it can free up his hands to play with you!
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Old 04-22-2012, 01:21 AM   #43 (permalink)
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Like many here have mentioned, I provide lots of tongue and lip action and fondle the boys.
However, I hum a tune when he's in my mouth. The vibration drives him crazy!
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And all this time I've been treating hand action as a thing not to do.
NO! no hands
you had it right...
no hands.
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Hands are fine...

Would rather have hands and mouth than just hands - or nothing at all!
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