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Ok - I have gotten the impression over the years that not all women can have an orgasm via intercourse / penetration without some clitoral stimulation. Makes sense to me.
But - can all women have orgasms through oral? For those who don't or can't, is it possibly a mental block - not being relaxed enough? Or perhaps poor technique by their partner?
"staying on the nub" doesnt really work well for my wife. I have to change things up, pay attention to everything down there.... then "stay on it" ONLY when she is completely ready....
With my wife she can orgasm very easily through intercourse but oral sex on her is difficult to get her to orgasm with. It's like cone said, I have to keep stimulating different parts of her until she's ready for the nub (and even then when I do everything else right the nub part isn't long).
It's like I have to get her engine warmed up before I hit the accelerator and then she goes from 0 to 60 in nothing flat.
I guess - to me - a woman saying she can't have an orgasm by having her "nub" rubbed(!) is like a guy saying he can't climax from having his penis stimulated.
Yet I know I've seen a poster or two over the years claim that oral doesn't work for them - or it's only good for foreplay.
I guess - to me - a woman saying she can't have an orgasm by having her "nub" rubbed(!) is like a guy saying he can't climax from having his penis stimulated.
Yet I know I've seen a poster or two over the years claim that oral doesn't work for them - or it's only good for foreplay.
Time has a way of changing the human response to stimulation.
I've never seen a woman who couldn't orgasm from oral stimulation. However since I was limited to an rare occasional opportunity with only one woman for over twenty years, my experience with others is only recent. Who's to know if their responses may only be fabricated in order to show approval to their stimulator?
If you could teach others how to do this, we may be able to achieve world peace!!!
There was a guy not long ago who said he could cum while going down on his wife. Just about everyone accused him of just humping the bed while he was down there!!!
Start using your mouth, by having a conversation. It's necessary, fun, and great foreplay.
There is distinctly, in my experience, NOT a sure-fire method every time with every woman.
To me, being confident in bed means that you presume nothing. You aren't ever going to look like an idiot in asking for feedback ... unless you are doing so every 30 seconds.
Orgasm responses run the gamut in direct correlation to her level of excitement. Had me a partner that needed to be bitten ... hard ... to knock her over the top. She required that kind of stimulation. This is also why some fetishes are quite prevalent.
And no, I'm not referring to the nubbin.Nibbling yes, biting? Ouch.
Start using your mouth, by having a conversation. It's necessary, fun, and great foreplay.
There is distinctly, in my experience, NOT a sure-fire method every time with every woman.
To me, being confident in bed means that you presume nothing. You aren't ever going to look like an idiot in asking for feedback ... unless you are doing so every 30 seconds.
Orgasm responses run the gamut in direct correlation to her level of excitement. Had me a partner that needed to be bitten ... hard ... to knock her over the top. She required that kind of stimulation. This is also why some fetishes are quite prevalent.
And no, I'm not referring to the nubbin.Nibbling yes, biting? Ouch.
It is stronger and better to me with penetration in the right position.
Missionary or cowgirl, gets stimulation to clit and G at same time. G is on front of vag and my hubby has one that point up (not down or sideways lol) so he hits the spot in face to face positions
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