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Originally Posted by suesmith  The only way I can lose weight is to cut my eating to NO MORE then 1200 calories a day, every day. I can eat slightly more to maintain. (absolutely no more then 1500 a day, and I will slowly gain on that)
Now, my question for you is, are you willing to eat the same diet that your wife does to help support her weight loss/maintenance goals? |
Well since I have been one of the more vocal, males on this thread regarding this topic, I will answer this.
First, you realize males tend to be bigger and require more calories than females. The average restaurant meal is too many calories for the average full size man. Women who eat those meals, well no wonder they struggle with their weight.
Having said that, a guy who wants his wife to maintain weight should be doing it himself.
Both need to figure out their daily metabolic rate and adjust their caloric intake accordingly.
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Originally Posted by suesmith Or, do you believe that your home should be still be stocked with all manner of goodies etc for you?
I really believe that many men have no idea how difficult is for women to lose, or even maintain weight. How willing would you be to give up your favorite foods for the rest of your life, no exceptions. No snacks, no sugar, limited carbs, very small portions of what you can eat. No alcohol at all. No exceptions. Would you be willing to do that forever to keep your partner happy with how you look? |
That extreme all or nothing thinking is the problem.
A healthy diet high in fiber, rich in nutrients, low in sodium which will also be lower in calories is all you need. Which is mostly colorful fruits and veggies, good fats like olive oil and avocado, and lean proteins like turkey.
Coupled with plenty of water, you can't go wrong.
And stagger that out over 4 to 5 times a day to help boost metabolism.
And after you start eating better, all that processed high sodium, high fat, high calorie food, actually starts to taste gross and doesn't sit well.
Get some regular exercise in there, it feels great.
Most people don't realize how dehydrated and poorly nourished they are until they make the change.
Trust me on that one.
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Originally Posted by suesmith I cant begin to tell you how frustrating it is to be slowly losing, and then go out for a nice dinner, and the next morning the scale says you gained 3 lbs, or 5lbs. And it takes 2 weeks of starving yourself to lose it. |
You should not starve yourself.
My weight will fluctuate 3 lbs every day. Most of that is just water fluctuation. Water is heavy. The recommended 64oz of water a day weighs 4 lbs.
I'm 6'1 currently at 195. Now I looked good at 205, I looked respectable at 215 and I could pass for average American 30 something male at 225.
But when I was 225 a few years ago, I could honestly grab my belly and say, Damn, I am getting fat.
It didn't make me feel bad. It was like a challenge to me to lose it. So I did.
Negative emotions serve no purpose in managing weight. It's all science and should be approached as such.
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Originally Posted by suesmith I'm just questioning the willingness for the men who feel the way they do in this thread, to do what they are asking their women to do. Do you ever bring home snacks, ice cream or chips? Do you even stop at DQ for an ice cream cone? Ever have a glass of wine or a beer with a nice dinner or your buddies? Do you ever eat fast food? Ever drink a milkshake? Those would all be off limits forever!
Can you, would you do it, if thats what it took? |
I am sorry but Dairy Queen? That sounds revolting to me. All fast food does. I never eat that garbage. And that's what it is.
And potato Chips....what a high sodium, high fat, high calorie, no nutrient disgusting food that really is.
You won't find any of that stuff in my house.
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Originally Posted by suesmith Can you, would you do it, if thats what it took? |
Yes, I want to live like that. I want my wife to do it with me.
Why wouldn't I?
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