04-24-2012, 07:02 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Hot and Cold....
So for the longest time in our marriage my hubs was the one with the high sex drive and me with the lower one... it was a discussion that every so often we had again because I would do good for a little while making sure to think about sex, etc. and then I would fall off. Our last discussion was about 6 months ago and I totally upped the heat so to speak... majorly!
Well suddenly his just dropped off. I try to do things, send a sexy text in the middle of the day, come home for a lunch trist... etc. but he seems disinterested. In fact, I sent a sexy text a couple days ago, offering a special treat that he completely ignored... I was floored! (And yes he got it, I asked)
We have had some other issues, but nothing out of the ordinary for us and it never caused problems in this department before. In fact the other day he basically said we are in a rut and we will get out of it. Then last night we watched a tv show (looking back at it now I realize it was very sexually charged). Tells me this morning that he had a very sexy dream about us... so he asks then for the special treatment.... even though the rejection the other day hurt me... I gave in because I feel like if I don't I will lose what we do have. Whatever the dream was must've been good, because he kissed me deeply today and it had been a while since he kissed me like that, and he said I need to kiss you more like that, and I said, yes, you do. Thoughts? Do men go through sexual ups and downs totally randomly? He has been stressed but I still don't get the whole reject me one day and want me the next...anyone else gone through this? I feel horrible because I can't help but wonder if this is how he felt the times that I wasn't feeling sexy and he was wanting it... it sucks!