Guys...would you ever ask this????

2nd_t!me iz_best · 04-29-2012, 08:44 PM

lol

shy_guy · 04-29-2012, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by working_together

Ok, lets say you are getting intimate with your partner, everything is going well, the guy is performing oral, doing a fine job, the woman orgasms and expresses this vocally, physically, the whole works. Would there be a possibility that you wouldn't know??? So the guy says "did you cum".

Nice..now that is a major turn off.

I can't imagine a guy being so clueless that he wouldn't know if his partner orgasmed or not.....

thoughts?

Sometimes, you just like to hear them say it. It's not complicated, and it's not because you don't know, it's just nice to hear it said explicitly.

Homemaker_Numero_Uno · 04-29-2012, 09:36 PM

If the answer is yes, would you really stop?
I mean, we are women, we are capable of more.
The fun only stops when everyone's satisfied, orgasm or not, or tuckered out.

shy_guy · 04-29-2012, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Homemaker_Numero_Uno

If the answer is yes, would you really stop?
I mean, we are women, we are capable of more.
The fun only stops when everyone's satisfied, orgasm or not, or tuckered out.

I won't stop until I think she wants me to stop. If I misunderstood and stopped too soon, all it would take would be a little encouragement to continue, and I'd give her what she wanted. As long as she wanted more, and I was capable of giving it, she'd get it.

jennifer1986 · 04-29-2012, 09:47 PM

Hmmm. I would not mind at all if my H asked me that...

Because he never does, and he does not even care if I did. When he's done, he's done, unless I ask him to help me (with his fingers), then I'd better pray he doesn't fall asleep or get bored

Honestly, I think that's why I have never liked oral in my life, because I am afraid he will get bored.

So, I would go easy on this one. Perhaps it's just nice to hear it from you. Why don't you smile and ask him isn't it obvious, you stud?

lovesherman · 04-29-2012, 09:52 PM

Words every woman longs to hear--Are you t.h.r.o.u.g.h. yet?

arbitrator · 04-29-2012, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Homemaker_Numero_Uno

If the answer is yes, would you really stop?
I mean, we are women, we are capable of more.
The fun only stops when everyone's satisfied, orgasm or not, or tuckered out.

I am a firm proponent of only coming up for air when absolutely necessary, and then only after strict advisement!

shy_guy · 04-29-2012, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by lovesherman

Words every woman longs to hear--Are you t.h.r.o.u.g.h. yet?

How about if it is modified just a bit: "Are you through already?"

nice777guy · 04-29-2012, 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by shy_guy

How about if it is modified just a bit: "Are you through already?"

Or - "Is it my turn yet?"

PBear · 04-29-2012, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by working_together

I guess because I was with my ex for so many years, he knew by my breathing when I was going to cum, he knew by the way I moved my hips, or sighed that I was really loving it. He also knew by the way it swelled down there that I was about to orgasm and he knew not to move at all. I just loved the way he was so in tuned to my body.

but....life goes on, and sex must go on as well.

thanks for all the replies,

So is this a new partner who asked?

Learning to read a new partner's responses can be a tricky business. And honestly, I figure you should be able to ask questions and talk about things with your partner without being judged.

And face it... Women have been known to fake orgasms. Guys as well, I'm sure, but not nearly as common. And some women are good at it. So sue him for trying to please you. Would it be better if he didn't care about your pleasure at all?

C

working_together · 04-30-2012, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by shy_guy

Sometimes, you just like to hear them say it. It's not complicated, and it's not because you don't know, it's just nice to hear it said explicitly.

Ok, so if your partner was giving you a great b/j, would you want her to keep asking you "are you going to cum yet", it ruins the moment, call me picky, but don't ask me questions, talk all the dirty talk you want, just don't ask me silly questions, it's really not sexy.

working_together · 04-30-2012, 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by PBear

So is this a new partner who asked?

Learning to read a new partner's responses can be a tricky business. And honestly, I figure you should be able to ask questions and talk about things with your partner without being judged.

And face it... Women have been known to fake orgasms. Guys as well, I'm sure, but not nearly as common. And some women are good at it. So sue him for trying to please you. Would it be better if he didn't care about your pleasure at all?

C

I can't believe women would want to fake orgasms, and damn the ones that ruin it for the women who want them.

Yeah, he's pretty new, but even still I'm not buying the fact he couldn't tell.

blahhhhh, I'm so picky, and critical, it's going to drive men away anyway....

reset button · 04-30-2012, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by working_together

I guess because I was with my ex for so many years, he knew by my breathing when I was going to cum, he knew by the way I moved my hips, or sighed that I was really loving it. He also knew by the way it swelled down there that I was about to orgasm and he knew not to move at all. I just loved the way he was so in tuned to my body.

but....life goes on, and sex must go on as well.

thanks for all the replies,

I agree.. but maybe new guy needs awhile to become in tune to your ways? Maybe he was verifying what he thought to be true to be sure what you liked?

heartsbeating · 04-30-2012, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Dollystanford

yeah screaming 'I'M F*CKING COOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMING' tends to give the game away ha ha

Quite right! Heheh

I can't remember my husband asking me this but I am expressive and he also reads me well.

Maybe he just needs reassurance. Maybe he wants to hear how fantastic he is at pleasuring you? Maybe he just wants to make sure you are indeed pleasured. No biggie, IMO.
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heartsbeating · 04-30-2012, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by working_together

Ok, so if your partner was giving you a great b/j, would you want her to keep asking you "are you going to cum yet", it ruins the moment, call me picky, but don't ask me questions, talk all the dirty talk you want, just don't ask me silly questions, it's really not sexy.

So you're not into this guy then, I take it?

While hubs reads me well, if I was in a parallel universe for the sake of this thread, and so long as I thought the guy's intention was wanting to please me (rather than hurry me), I'd feel that he just needed some guidance and reassurance. Even if he was in his 40's. Heck we all have our insecurities and we all like to feel like sexy beasts too

Without knowing his story, maybe he's been criticized sexually and he just needs to get his mojo back again. This is the way my mind goes when considering your post *shrug* but that's just me.
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