working_together

Ok, lets say you are getting intimate with your partner, everything is going well, the guy is performing oral, doing a fine job, the woman orgasms and expresses this vocally, physically, the whole works. Would there be a possibility that you wouldn't know??? So the guy says "did you cum".

Nice..now that is a major turn off.

I can't imagine a guy being so clueless that he wouldn't know if his partner orgasmed or not.....

thoughts?

Jeff/BC

Well, sometimes this guy is that clueless. Carol has a wide variety of ways she expresses an orgasm. Some of them are more open to interpretation than others. There's also been times she looked pretty thoroughly like she DID have an orgasm and then I find out she didn't.

When I'm unclear I like to ask because, you know, the fun isn't done yet

Dollystanford

if he didn't think you'd come why would he stop???

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In_The_Wind

You either know she did or didn't some guys don't know any better and Plus they just want to make sure
You got yours maybe give him a clue that it turns you.off if he has.to ask
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working_together

No, he didn't stop, I orgasmed again, then I told him "ok, I'm good", and then pops out this question. It turned me off. It wasn't the first time that happened either. I guess it just leads me to believe that they're just not in tuned to a woman, and they're pleasure. IDK

working_together

What am I supposed to say?? "huh, can you not ask that, it's a downer" It's tricky.

SunnyT

Well.... if you can allow a man to eat your *****, then you should be able to ask him ANYTHING.

working_together

It's just that it seems rude, but, I guess you have a point, these things need to be addressed even if uncomfortable.

that_girl

that would be a major turn off and make me think the guy is a total idiot.

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nice777guy

So - we really are supposed to know all of this stuff from...???

I don't think they went into this during the 30 minutes of Sex Ed that I got in school. And now you're telling me not to ask the woman I'm with?

If the question turns you off, then next time try being a bit more verbal during the act - make sure he knows before he asks.

Just kind of funny that the normal advice of talking to each other about what "works" and feels good doesn't apply here.

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that_girl

When I orgasm, Hubs knows. I think it's the way I grab his arm/leg/hair that gives him the clue And I'm vocal as hell.

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Mistys dad

Women think:

Let's see, if he doesn't ever go down=unhappy

If he goes down on you, but can't make you come=unhappy

If he goes down, does a good job, and wants to make sure your satisfied=unhappy.

Men think:

No such thing as a bad blow job.

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nice777guy

And yeah - was kind of wondering how he was able to free his head if you weren't done!!!

Between the thigh lock and the fingers in my hair - was always hard to really say much!!!

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Bluemoon1

Believe it or not Ladies sometimes us men can get a little insecure, we just need a little reassurance that we are doing everything right. (Well I used to anyway )

that_girl

If my husband asked, I'd say NO! DO IT AGAIN!

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