04-30-2012, 10:48 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Husband gets erection, but can't keep it! Help
Ok so my husband and I have sex successfully about once a week. I'm more than ok with that and he seems to be too. The problem came about when we found out we had fertility issues. I have low hormones and have to take meds to attempt to conceive a baby. The doctor told us that we would have to have sex on cycle day 14 and cycle day 15. We are able to get it in on the first day with NOO trouble at all, but when it comes to doing it the second day, my husband is able to get an erection but it doesn't last. He says he "thinks" too much. Then he beats himself up about it and we end up not having sex. Then he blames himself for us not getting pregnant.
Here's a bit of background information. My husband at one point was addicted to porn. He would masterbate to porn everyday but only had sex with me once a month. It got to the point that he couldn't ejaculate in me, he would have to masterbate to climax. I found out about his porn usage and threaten to leave him. I told him it was me or the porn. So after some stumbles he was able to completely stop looking at porn and even got to the point of being able to ejaculate in me with no help besides vaginal penetration. He believes this has something to do with the fact that he can't keep an erection on day 2 of the schedule.
Now here's where you guys come in... Does anyone have any suggestions to eleavate this problem.
Has anyone else had this problem. This isn't a just a when-we-need-to-make-a-baby problem. At any given time he can't perform 2 days in a row. He is able to masterbate and put it in right as hes climaxing if he is watching me masterbate with a dildo, but i have expressed to him that i fake it with the dildo and he is now unable to use that as a tool because knowing its not working for me doesn't arouse him. I know this is a lot but hes under 30 and is convinced he has E.D. now. and I know its a mental thing. Is there anything i can do to help this? or any suggestions that he might be able to do to keep an erection to the point of climax...