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Did you ever have a class or your Boss give's instructions to everyone and after. You have to ask WTF did he say?Well this is about my wife and Groping.We had a set down the other night about the lack of sex.Well she said would I please stop Groping her. So I said I don't understand?? So when you are cuddling don't Grope . She said that why can't I just cuddle.Why do I always have to grab her privates.So I 'am trying to understand in the morning when spooning and cuddeling don't grope.{ don't touch the tits}Just cuddle.So when do you start foreplay??? There must be a order of events that take place???I always thought that Groping leads to sex.So I'am confused Its OK to cuddle,Its ok to spoon,But don't grope.Just hold me.I thought that when you Grope that lets the OP know you are interested in sex??? So for the last few days I cuddle and spoon and don't grope at night and in the morning.And then roll over and get out of bed. And Say Is this what she likes.I walk away horny?So when leaving for work you hug and kiss, But don't Grope??
I get the same thing from my wife. Why can't you just hold me? But when does holding stop and sex begin? How do we know when it is ok to go further? I pretty much have to read her mind. If I read it wrong, I am a pervert.
But on the reverse, when she is in the mood. She might hug for 1 minute or less before groping me. I guess she is a better mind reader than me. I have never had to call her a pervert! :-)
Don't assume that because you aren't feeling her up that there will be sex. That is a covert contract that won't be filled. You need to clearly initiate sex.
Start before the bedroom. In a sexy or polite way tell her "tonight". Make your intentions perfectly clear, then follow through at bedtime.
Allow the cuddle time to be non-results oriented. Cuddle with no expectations of sex or groping.
Separate the two activities so both your needs are met.
__________________ The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?
OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
__________________ The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?
OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.
What Dean said. Don't stop completely just go slow. What she may mean is that she needs to be warmed up before you get to her privates.
If you go for the privates before she is ready it may feel like groping. You are ready but she is not. Lean to read her by watching and you will know when she is ready.
Also give affection that does not lead to sex maybe 1 in 5 times. That may satisfy her need for non-sexual touch. Best to you and your wife.
I don't like groping either, but I love sex. The problem here is the lack of a good sex life with your wife. How many times a week do you have sex? You need to tell your wife how important a sexual connection is for you--that it is not just physical, but the way that you feel loved.
I hate groping because my nipples are very sensitive. However, when we both are ready to be aroused, touching my breasts is foreplay, and very exciting! So you just have to find the right time.
Try more non-sexual hugs throughout the day. Kiss your wife passionately and tenderly without grabbing her breasts or genitals. But when the time is right, let her know that you enjoy her breasts. Make sure she is relaxed and ready for your touch, so that it is welcome to her.
What Dean said. Don't stop completely just go slow. What she may mean is that she needs to be warmed up before you get to her privates.
If you go for the privates before she is ready it may feel like groping. You are ready but she is not. Lean to read her by watching and you will know when she is ready.
Also give affection that does not lead to sex maybe 1 in 5 times. That may satisfy her need for non-sexual touch. Best to you and your wife.
Are you saying sex 1 time for every 5 times of affection or the other way around?
Yeah focus on the other parts of her that you love. For me I love caressing my wife's neck, shoulders and lower back. To me kissing and caressing her in those places in particular is super sexy, and we both love it.
Take your time, you don't time sex like a race or something. It's not like "hey honey we have to orgasm in 20 minutes or less to beat our last record!". Now you may not be thinking quite like that yourself... but she might think you do (and she doesn't want that).
Your wife feels you are treating her like a sexual object. If she does not want to be groped, then you shouldn't grope her. If you want sex, then just verbalize it.
I have no problem giving my wife what she likes and needs, especially after she has given me what I need. Once she has shown me she cares about my needs, I will return the favor and cuddle and hug her the rest of the night.
Grope and sex then cuddle and hug. I am a man, I do not want to hug and cuddle until after I have released. Why would men torture themselves this way? We have physical needs. BETA?
Almostrecovered said : wish I could help as my wife complains when I dont grope
This is me too....I even told him to step it up, I don't want to feel like the only aggressor in the darn house...he loves it though.
There was a time in our marraige I pushed my husband away from doing this... I really regret that so very very much. He would come home from work and try to reach in back of me while I was doing the dishes, I don't know what was wrong with me, just too busy-other things in my mind...I sometimes would get irritated with him, this hurt him.
Those days are history... Groping is a regular part of our day & what I would call the more FUN flirty exchanges we have with each other.
It is never too much, just gotta lower that around the kids -or at least around the corner of the wall.
I see groping out of nowhere as being a turn off. Women are crockpots not microwaves. If you're in the mood there are other things you can do. Usually kissing will lead to sex for us. It's easy to tell by the kiss if the other person is interested. That's the thing you're just heading to third without even being up at bat.
I hate it when I'm not in the mood and a man just grabs my parts. Like seriously, if there is no lead up to it it just doesn't feel right. Posted via Mobile Device
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Understanding Groping 
