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I do this- I've been with the same man for almost 20 yrs..married almost 16-
I love exposing the unexpected aces from my sleeve..it's SOOO fun!!
A little at a time..
Afterward, he always looks at me like...'Holy Sh*t!!' :O
Very, very possible she just decided, ya know, it's time to shake things up!
Oh, enjoy Posted via Mobile Device
I would hope for the hormones going into overdrive.
If my wife waited on BJ's for 20 freaking years so she simply had an ace up her sleeve to "shake things up". I would be slightly pissed. "Uhhh, honey you waited like 19 years and 364 days too long to pull that f*ing card out of your sleeve."
i would hope for the hormones going into overdrive.
If my wife waited on bj's for 20 freaking years so she simply had an ace up her sleeve to "shake things up". I would be slightly pissed. :d "uhhh, honey you waited like 19 years and 364 days too long to pull that f*ing card out of your sleeve."
I disagree about asking. Why screw up a good thing?
to the OP - I would sit back and enjoy the ride but I waould also start to snoop around as others have suggested. Get a voice activated recorder (VAR) and place it under her seat in the car with heavy duty velcro and purchase and install a keylogger on the PC
Keep all of this quiet even if you start to find something you don't like!
If she was having an affair, it is possible it is over and she appreciates what she has again. Her security. If she loves your penis more than ever now because of that affair, maybe she realized what a good thing she had all this time.
I disagree about asking. Why screw up a good thing?
to the OP - I would sit back and enjoy the ride but I waould also start to snoop around as others have suggested. Get a voice activated recorder (VAR) and place it under her seat in the car with heavy duty velcro and purchase and install a keylogger on the PC
Keep all of this quiet even if you start to find something you don't like!
You could be right but twenty years with no oral and BAM!! all of a sudden lots of oral...you`d think she`s gotta expect some inquiries about it.
With the endless stories of how a ww will lie when confronted, only trickle truthing if the spouse has hard proof, I doubt she'd admit to anything anyway. He can ask just to know what he is doing right (maybe it's his new cologne or he baths more), but if he thinks she may have had an affair, he needs to start his investigating and gathering evidence.
I disagree about asking. Why screw up a good thing?
to the OP - I would sit back and enjoy the ride but I waould also start to snoop around as others have suggested. Get a voice activated recorder (VAR) and place it under her seat in the car with heavy duty velcro and purchase and install a keylogger on the PC
Keep all of this quiet even if you start to find something you don't like!
I would not do anything at all that would be negative in the way of discussion.
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Maybe I am just letting my imagination run wild. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years now
During all this time she would never give me oral sex. She said it made her feel sick to her stomach and it is gross.
Back in march she did it out of the blue. She went all the way and finished me off. I, needless to say, loved it. But it was so not like her.
Now since then it is almost a regular thing. I am having a hard time understanding the sudden change. The last time she also started playing with my ass as she was doing it. This has always been a never touch zone in her book. Why now?
I talk with a friend at work and he said his wife did the same thing and started doing things she never did before. This was about 2 months before he found out she was having an affair and she did things for him when she started feeling guilty and was afrid he would find out. So she started doing extra things for him to try and keep him happier so he wouldn't complain.
Do you think I should ask her or just enjoy the new change? Posted via Mobile Device
similar thing happened to me when my wife cheated
some waywards get hypersexual and will even increase the frequency of sex (and try new things) with their spouse during their affair.
that said, if it's just this one sign then it doesnt tell you either way
Some people just aren't happy either way. She's on a long term drought and you hate her for it. When starts to show some enthusiasm you get suspicious. Don't get me wrong, I understand that. But at some point I would not care.
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Re: Wife doing thing she was always against. 
"Uhhh, honey you waited like 19 years and 364 days too long to pull that f*ing card out of your sleeve."
