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Maybe I am just letting my imagination run wild. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years now
During all this time she would never give me oral sex. She said it made her feel sick to her stomach and it is gross.
Back in march she did it out of the blue. She went all the way and finished me off. I, needless to say, loved it. But it was so not like her.
Now since then it is almost a regular thing. I am having a hard time understanding the sudden change. The last time she also started playing with my ass as she was doing it. This has always been a never touch zone in her book. Why now?
I talk with a friend at work and he said his wife did the same thing and started doing things she never did before. This was about 2 months before he found out she was having an affair and she did things for him when she started feeling guilty and was afrid he would find out. So she started doing extra things for him to try and keep him happier so he wouldn't complain.
Do you think I should ask her or just enjoy the new change? Posted via Mobile Device
"This was about 2 months before he found out she was having an affair and she did things for him when she started feeling guilty and was afrid he would find out. So she started doing extra things for him to try and keep him happier so he wouldn't complain"
Don't jump to conclusions. Perhaps she read 50 shades of grey. Perhaps she follows That_Girl's posts, or SA's and just wants to be proactive. Maybe she's hitting menopause. Dude, don't let your suspicions screw this up.
That said, it may not be a bad idea to get a var and key logger just to confirm nothing's up. Otherwise just enjoy.
Do some checking. Maybe she read a book ... But if she is really good at it and not just finding her way it has to make you wonder especially if it was something she was against doing.
Sure sometimes wives get more adventurous because they are having wilder sex with someone else. It does not have to be that ...
Hormones are finally kicking her sex drive into hyper, or shes cheating.
I dont see after 20 years of ewww your ass and **** are icky being changed by reading Cosmo or talking with her girlfriends about how kissing your husbands penis isnt really all that bad.
Maybe she decided that the sex you were having was boring, and wanted to spice it up. Seriously if I was you I would stop worrying and over analysing and enjoy. (IT might be gone as swiftly as it came)
Maybe she's over 40 and getting hornier? (is that a word??)
This is exactly what happened to me... We were married for 19 long years before I ever gave my husband a healthy sucking BJ -- in fact years ago, I was retarted enough to tell him I thought all penis's were "homely" .... Don't even ask me what I was thinking! He wasn't going to ask me for a BJ after that comment!
My hormones went C R A Z Y all of a sudden and I couldn't get enough of him in every single way ...(can't say I went for the butt crack though -he wouldn't allow that)... he didn't know what the hell hit me, and frankly , neither did I...but he was my obsession for a sweet time there..and so was oral sex, my new found passion in life..he wasn't complaining.
I suddently felt like everything we had been missing sexually... was my RAGE in life... it was like a little stream that turned into a Niagra Falls, the Cougar was let out of it's cage !
So yep... this can happen to some women in Mid Life !
Enjoy the ride. You are living every man's dream. If she is being affectionate and paying attention to you, then I wouldn't worry. If she seems distant when not having sex with you, or the only time she pays attention to you is in bed, then you might want to do some snooping.
Maybe I am just letting my imagination run wild. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years now
During all this time she would never give me oral sex. She said it made her feel sick to her stomach and it is gross.
Back in march she did it out of the blue. She went all the way and finished me off. I, needless to say, loved it. But it was so not like her.
Now since then it is almost a regular thing. I am having a hard time understanding the sudden change. The last time she also started playing with my ass as she was doing it. This has always been a never touch zone in her book. Why now?
I talk with a friend at work and he said his wife did the same thing and started doing things she never did before. This was about 2 months before he found out she was having an affair and she did things for him when she started feeling guilty and was afrid he would find out. So she started doing extra things for him to try and keep him happier so he wouldn't complain.
Do you think I should ask her or just enjoy the new change? Posted via Mobile Device
I have just sent you a private message with my address. Please send a gallon of your tap water asap! COD will be just fine!
I do this- I've been with the same man for almost 20 yrs..married almost 16-
I love exposing the unexpected aces from my sleeve..it's SOOO fun!!
A little at a time..
Afterward, he always looks at me like...'Holy Sh*t!!' :O
Very, very possible she just decided, ya know, it's time to shake things up!
Oh, enjoy Posted via Mobile Device
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Wife doing thing she was always against. 
.... Don't even ask me what I was thinking! He wasn't going to ask me for a BJ after that comment!
