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Well, I'm 33. For the past 13 years, I've been hoping to have the fun sex life my wife had before I came along.
Been hoping, trying, doing more, (you name it) to have interesting sex with my wife other than plain old missionary (in her words: "nothing funny"), leave her clothes on because she's getting cold and get it over with while she lies there waiting for me to finish.
But I'm depressed. I cannot believe that the sex life I so badly wanted was over before it started.
Is there any hope? Is there sex after 33? She says she's not interested anymore and couldn't care less if we never have sex again.
Do people older than me still have fun sex? Sex under the stars, sex in crazy places - like the living room? Sex positions other than beached whale waiting to die?
I beleive you have been given all the advice in another thread
There is a time for discussing and planning but now is the time for action, stop *****ing about it and start improving yourself
There is only one person you can change
Do you know who that is?
I will give you a clue, it's not your wife!
It won't take a week or a month, it might never happen, but what is your alternative, you could keep making threads on here for a lifetime and what difference would that make!
She does not have a problem, she gets all the sex she wants, your job is to become desirable, and there is nothing as undesirable as a nice guy in full flow beleive me, been there go the T shirt
Im 34 and married with 3 small kids under 10yrs.
I was always the leave the light off,pull up the covers during,no public funny stuff..lol. BUT in the last 6 months I have opened up alot and its alot of fun!!
We go to the nude beach,sex in the car on occasion.He seems to really like the possiblity of being caught or doing it in public.
Im even more excited hearing other women say that it is soo much better in your 40's. My husband is late 40's and his drive is still going strong so I would say there is hope and definitley sex after 33.
I do have to admit though that if my husband did not push a little to have me give him oral,public,lights on, different positions or let him go down on me sex then I would still be plain old missionary style.It was him that brought me out of my shell.
How old is your wife?
What does she classify as funny stuff and have you asked?Maybe what she thinks is funny stuff is stuff thats off the wall kinky and you can do the minor funny stuff
I beleive you have been given all the advice in another thread
There is a time for discussing and planning but now is the time for action, stop *****ing about it and start improving yourself
There is only one person you can change
Do you know who that is?
I will give you a clue, it's not your wife!
It won't take a week or a month, it might never happen, but what is your alternative, you could keep making threads on here for a lifetime and what difference would that make!
She does not have a problem, she gets all the sex she wants, your job is to become desirable, and there is nothing as undesirable as a nice guy in full flow beleive me, been there go the T shirt
well, I've decided to take up martial Arts again, which I really used to enjoy.
mommyofthree, kinky is anything other than half dressed missionary with no lights
Dude, your 33 and I'm assuming that your wife is around your age. Wait.... sh'e going to be going into her sexual peak. We had our's at 17 through our earlyt twenties where we want to screw the knothole in a tree! A woman's sexual peak is in her mid thirties. She's about ready to attack!
Clothes on because she's cold??? Turn up the thermostat a few degrees and remove that obstacle!
33 and this is your sex life? any kids? If not, I'd be outta there faster than sh*t through a goose! Was she like this when you dated?
On her side, she may have some body esteem issues she's suffering with. Is that possible? Have the two of you talked about this issue at length? Counseling?
To those who commented about women hitting their peak in their 30's and again in menopause, be careful! I waited through my wife's 30's and she never got there. Now she's 48 and while I don't think she's in menopause yet, a good friend of hers is and has said that her libido has zeroed out!
well, I've decided to take up martial Arts again, which I really used to enjoy.
mommyofthree, kinky is anything other than half dressed missionary with no lights
Listen to what bluemoon and the others are telling you, Quit thinking about her & sex, foucus on YOU, you like martial arts great, devote yourself to it..
The more you think about what your NOT getting the worse you will be.
Well, I'm 33. For the past 13 years, I've been hoping to have the fun sex life my wife had before I came along.
What leads you to think that was the case? I would guess your wife is either lying she had a sex life before you or you're assuming she did and you're fooling yourself. Or her view of what wild sex was in her teens is delusional e.g. once in the back of someone's car. Your wife sounds like mine albeit we have kids. She was never 'into' it. Being young and stupid I did not see that clearly. And while she wasn't a virgin when I met her I doubt she had anything like a 'normal' or what passes for normal when you're young.
If this is her normal, there's no fixing it because she doesn't want to. So tell her that either you'll stick with her like brother and sister and no sex or you're done or she can do whatever she likes.
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