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I'd have to say the diapers is the worst imo.... Being a mother and all.. that just weirds me the eff out!! I could never be understanding of that fetish.. sorry... i know some are but i certainly not one that ever would be.
My husbands fetish is feet, and peep toe shoes. Fish nets maybe....I love it.
I wish I had more shoes to wear just for bed...but alas, I'm a shoe s!ut, and I have to wear my fvck me shoes ASAP.
And anyone who saw my pic when I was at comic con, yes those shoes were red patten leather, mini peep, with a bow, yes I still wear them, I believe hubbs got first go when I bought them.
I know how strong a fetish is, and how it could impact daily life, so I have to be the one who husband is looking for to fill that need. I love dressing up (he also had a go with the skirt a week or so later), I wear my dresses, shoes, fishnets, whatever he likes.
We haven't done this in a while, because we have a very small one bedroom right now....but I feel for our would be neighbors.
I would feel disrespected if my husband didn't feel comfortable to come to me with this, and he hid it..for years, or secretly watched porn with his fetish, or sought a AP who has no problem doing this.
Hey, better me than some random chick from cra!gs list, or am.
My hubby loves stockings as well, but doesn't care for shoes. I tried on some "hooker heels" one time, thinking it could be fun, but I damn near broke my ankle in the store! If she is not used to wearing heels, you may want to start her off in a much shorter heel and have her work up to the 5-inchers. Being afraid that you are going to topple over does not inspire "sexy" feelings!
My fetish is stockings and high heels. My wifes doesnt normally wear them but agreed she would as I said they really turn me on.
I bought her a pair of 5 inch black peep toe heels, I also bought her lingerie and stockings. But she has never worn then despite me asking. This is my biggest turn on to see her wearing these and making love to her while she wears the lingerie and stockings but especially the heels. My head spins thinking of her dressed that way
Am I asking to much ?
I don't know, OP...I'm going to differ here and say I don't see what the big deal is. Stockings and high heels are very tame, imho, and since she has said it doesn't embarrass her, she should just do it for you. It's not something that's painful or weird, and if it makes you happy, why not?
I'd be hard pressed to even call what you want a fetish.
I know its not really a fetish (well maybe mild) I have others I wouldnt dream of telling her
I know its not much to ask and I am sure a majority of women just dress in these as they know it will turn there man on but to be honest my wige doesnt really have a "sexy2 side she likes to portray. I can tell her even when we are just going out how beautifull she looks and all I get it "thanks"
Something that has helped me, and of course my husband, that has benefitted in more than one area.
I had lingerie hanging in the closet for years that I never touched. As I started losing weight a couple of years ago my husband began responding in a very different way. When we were alone he would examine me, my body, in detail as if he were discovering treasure. He didnít give me blanket complimentsóyouíre so beautiful, youíre hot, you look great, etc. He complimented me in detail. He would caress a part of me and describe what he saw in that one part, detailing what it was that made it so beautiful to him. The best way to explain it is that it was as one would examine precious jewels or priceless art, you donít just talk about the magnificence of it, you look at the detailing that makes it so.
The more he did this, the more I felt as he described me and wanted him to respond to me more this way. I began picking up a few pieces of lingerie to wear around the house, and he didnít miss telling me how it looked on me, mostly in detail, he does use some of the blanket statements at times, but not as much as the detailed compliments. Still I wanted to know more, but mostly I wanted to give him more to discover and the lingerie got a little more fun. A few months ago I felt comfortable enough for him to purchase a pair of six in heels for me and I now have a couple of other pairs of heels not so high, but just as sexy.
Even last night I was dressed for him when he came home from work, heels and all. Just as he does he first complimented me with his expression, and then with his words, in detail. He took note of my calves, the way my hips looks, etc. I donít feel cheap this way, I feel like a rare gem and he just canít get enough of examining each facet of the cut, the brilliance of the clarity, the depth of the colors and the sparkle of the light that shines through it.
I don't see it as a fetish. Afterall, don't we take brilliant diamonds and dress them in beautiful settings.
You husband is a lucky man. My wife is not sexual at all really its a lights out cotton nightie job once every couple of months. She did actually dress in lingerie and stockings once I asked her to put her heels on (not bought specifically and only 3 inches at most) but she said she felt uncomfortable with it and couldnt wait to get them off
I have tried everything but I love her so much I just put up with it. She has the lingeri, stockings and a pair of 5 inch black patent stilletoes, I have asked her to wear them she agress then doesnt go through with it. I feel like I am pestering her I wont ask again. Will remain my fantasy I guess
Thing is when I bought the lingerie and heels she wanted a Rabbit which we bought and I thought things were looking up
Happymrs, you are a lucky woman. My husband can't find words. I asked him to write or tell me 10 things he loved about me, and he couldn't even get to five because they're all blankets. Talked to the MC about and she said to think about things he's done or written, specifically a form he had to fill out for his alcohol eval, and the words just weren't working right. He loves to have me write things because he says that I just always know what to say.
And I know he WANTS to, he just doesn't have it there. He tried so hard to describe how much he loved me the other night... it's a good thing I'm patient because it came out " I love you so insignificantly" and he didn't realize what he meant to say was not what he was really putting out there, lol. He's a smart man, just not with words, lol.