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My fetish is stockings and high heels. My wifes doesnt normally wear them but agreed she would as I said they really turn me on.
I bought her a pair of 5 inch black peep toe heels, I also bought her lingerie and stockings. But she has never worn then despite me asking. This is my biggest turn on to see her wearing these and making love to her while she wears the lingerie and stockings but especially the heels. My head spins thinking of her dressed that way
It can be uncomfortable for a woman to put on a "costume" for the purposes of sex. It can make her feel cheap, like a hooker. If she doesn't normally wear them, it's difficult to make that transition from wearing it and then "leaving it on".
Which is kinda how it should go. It's just part of what she is wearing and it stays on... it's not your typical lingerie.
Once you start down the path of ****tiness... the mind can wonder what's next? Will you still respect her? Do you think of her that way all the time? Just thoughts women think.
It takes a great deal of self confidence in one's sexuality to pull this off. That comes a bit at a time. Try smaller leaps.
You are right and I have asked her if it embarrases her she said no but I feel it could. I have told her my fetish but I have to much respect for her to force the issue - if she wants to wear them great if not I respect that
I think it depends on the woman, but it's probably a self confidence issue, it does take confidence to do that. I'm personally kind of sad because my husband looks at that stuff as just something he'll have to take off to have sex... Maybe ask her to start by wearing some of it under her clothes so she can see if it makes her feel more attractive.
hmmm, for those of us who wear them on a daily basis anyway I know that I feel ten times hotter in heels - perhaps if your wife doesn't normally wear them she doesn't realise this
and agree about her letting her buy her own - perhaps she feels you're forcing her into something she's not comfortable with, go out and buy some stuff together??
All of the stuff I bought she likes and she does wear the bra knickers underher clothes. I know she wants to wear heels as she always comments when my daughter buys shoes. Its a confidence thing I think
I do this I am forever telling her she beautifull. Before I even bought anything for her I always asked, I never just pressumed she would wear these. Perhaps its like she doesnt say how she feels as she feels she is letting me down ?
She is slightly overweight and is conseous of that i never tell her to loose weight or comment. She is perfect to me but I understand how woman feel about their bodies
She is slightly overweight and is conseous of that i never tell her to loose weight or comment. She is perfect to me but I understand how woman feel about their bodies
that's the beauty of heels - she'll be the same weight but five inches taller
Been through this one myself running man! My wife had gained a bunch of weight after a baby and was self conscious.
So many women think of heels as hookerish. If you want her to wear some shoes start with a set of really low heels (not 5 inchers) that she could wear in public no problem. The each month (and take your time here) try to step it up a notch, either a bit of higher heel, or a bit more scandalous design.
If you can get her to, try to have her look through a shoe website like zappos (not a sex toy site) and ask her exactly what makes a shoe "wh0rey" it could be the height, design, or both.
As for the stockings, I can rarely convince my wife to wear them, but when she was heavier I bought them plus size so they would not squeeze her thighs too much and make her self conscious. For my wife she hates wearing them because they are hot in bed, not because they are risque.
I also found a cool trick. My wife gets cold in winter and I love knee and thigh high socks.
So i bought her some Boggs boots on amazon as a gift this winter, then I bought her some american apparel knee and thigh high socks to go with them and some smartwool knee highs. Win, win.
Also we found some knee high leather boots that had NO heel, but we also found some awesome leggings and tights that go with them and a casual dress, comprimise I know, but some of the new leggings are pretty hot.
She never wears heels other than on some boots she has. I only bought these shoes as she said how much she liked them on a website.
I feel better talking about it here as people understand. My wife would freak out at a site like this one. Shes not got a lot of self confidence - whener she wants to have sex she is straight upstairs off with the make up and into bed, wheras I would like it if we took our time more and I slowly undressed her. But thats her and I love her for what she is !! She knows I want to see her in lingerie and heels - if she wants to do it she will - in the meantime I can fantasise !!
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