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Old 05-07-2012, 10:28 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Yesterday, the W and I got to talking about oral to completion, and she asked, "What's the big deal about that to guys, anyway? Other than just, 'It's hot.'"

I did my best and tried to explain reasoning that I've seen many a time: that it sends the man a message of acceptance...the willingness to allow him to finish in her mouth communicates this message so fully because it's (in a gross over generalization) "not the norm." Of course, I included the truth that most men who enjoy it aren't necessarily aware of the why, just that they do.

Any other theories (or better explanations of that one)?
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the same reason why women like it!
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the same reason why women like it!
That's assuming they do, of course.

My W, for example, is ultimately indifferent to it. She doesn't mind doing it from time to time, but it's not something she does frequently. Which was a side conversation that we had. She said that she's only done it a handful of times. I could swear she did it frequently in our first year or two together, then all but stopped once we were married. On further reflection, we came to the conclusion that it was a matter of perception: during those early days, oral was far more frequently a part of foreplay, as opposed to an act in and of itself. On those occasions that oral was the main event, it was all the way. As time went on and her drive decreased, oral by itself became more frequent, but not an oral finish.
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I always assumed it was cos there's no cleaning up to do afterwards
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I think too, it might be a dominance thing at a subconscious level.

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As someone who doesn't get them, so can reflect on what I am missing, it is an acceptance thing. It is a selfless act that shows love, attraction, and affection. It communicates - I am into you. Not that there aren't other ways of showing it.
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This article sums it up near perfectly. Have your wife read it.
Why It's Important For A Woman To Swallow A Man's Semen During Oral Sex! | Gender & Sexuality
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Old 05-07-2012, 02:01 PM   #8 (permalink)
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swallowing to me is a nice bonus, or finishing touch. My wife hasn't swallowed in quite some time, and usually is in a rush to get me inside her. Every once in awhile I'll get a 'favor' to completion, but she usually backs away when it's time for the big finish.

While the swallowing would be nice, I'm mostly ok with that... the allure is more in the act itself.. there is certain psychology involved, but very much of it comes down to the simple fact that...

it feels amazing.

More important than swallowing is getting the sense that she really wants to do this for you, and likes it.

If she could just enjoy doing it to me as much as I enjoy doing it to her.... We have some work to do in this area...

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because she looks sexy good with my d*ck in her mouth.

I wonder If i look sexy with my tounge in her vaj vaj.

I'm going to ask her tonight!
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it is hard to explain...its a closeness, its acceptance. its love. its fun. its nice. its shows love.

i havent found a good reason not to..yet....baw-ha-ha[pets evil cat with an eye patch, as i look out the window of my cliff side lair]...but seriously, its not a "reward"...but oddly i do expect to have the favor returned....

and husband expects the favor returned...we have this VICIOUS cycle if returning oral over and over and over...
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I've never had it happen, so for me it would simply be cool because... well it *could* happen.

Basically a proof of concept.
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Whats 'oral'?




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It's a mouth rinse. A wonderful product, go ask for it at the store.
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I asked my DH about this once. I asked why he wanted it so bad. And, basically, the answer I got was what I expected... the acceptance. It's even more of a turn on knowing that the taste is a bit of a turn off for me, but I am willing to do it for him. That and the whole gag reflex thing, which I FINALLY managed to "fix" so to speak! LOL
But yes, the acceptance and apparently he likes to see my mouth there...
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The same reason why if you're having vaginal (or anal) sex, you want to finish inside her. Men are hard wired to want to deliver their seed inside of a woman, and the orifice you're penetrating ultimately doesn't matter. If you're making love to her mouth, you want to finish in her mouth. Pulling out at climax makes about as much sense as pulling out of her vagina at climax and cumming outside her body.

Now do you cum outside the body sometimes during vaginal and anal sex? Sure, but I'd chance to say that the majority of the time most men finish inside the woman's body. I think if a man is unaccustomed to finishing inside her mouth, it's likely because he's not use to a woman who swallows. So guys begin to think of blow jobs as foreplay, a small pit stop on the way to the main event. But if you are like me and my wife, and view oral sex as a potentially complete, totally self contained sex session, than the entire act feels similar to vaginal lovemaking, and it feels totally natural to complete where you start; in the mouth.
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