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I have been remarried for a year now and sometimes wake up to my husband masturbating early in the morning. He knows that I am not a morning person and am not receptive if he wakes me at say 6 Am for sex, so this seems to be his alterative, but he is still waking me up and puts me in a bad mood so that when I do wake up I don't want to have sex with him. Any similar situations out there or any advice. I have never had this with any other relationship before.
So, let me get this straight. You're not upset to the fact that you're waking up and he's going to town on himself. You're mad because he's shaking the bed and waking you up?
If he is doing it in bed, he is trying to make you feel guilty. So either give him a helping hand, or ask him nicely go take care of himself in the bathroom, or during his morning shower.
But don't forget to make time for the both of you.
If he is doing it in bed, he is trying to make you feel guilty. So either give him a helping hand, or ask him nicely go take care of himself in the bathroom, or during his morning shower.
But don't forget to make time for the both of you.
Not necessarily. Sometimes I fantasize about my wife, and it helps to be able to look over at her from time to time.
OP if it bothers you so much, ask that he do it elsewhere. I do think he will take it better though if with that request you offer something back... perhaps a promise of something more later in the day (and follow through on your promises).
If he is doing it in bed, he is trying to make you feel guilty.
while that may be the case, it's not necessarily so. There's been many a morning that I've woken up ready to go, found my wife to be quite soundly asleep, and taken matters into my own hands (literally) while still there in the bed. No guilt trip present at all. Sometimes she wakes up and helps. Sometimes she wakes up and doesn't. Other times, she doesn't wake up. Now, if the OP has made it clear that he's disturbing her and waking her up, that's another matter entirely. In our case, we're both cognizant of the fact that we both enjoy pleasuring ourselves from time to time, so there's no need to hide it in the bathroom or the shower. Posted via Mobile Device
I'm sorry, I just don't see what you are mad about. Men masturbate. So do most women. Are you mad that he's waking you up? Then I guess you could ask him to go to the other room, but you could also decide to accept that he is a normal male.
You know this is whats kills me about LD people.They will not lend a hand in the bedroom.But the minute you go down stairs they start with today I need this from you.Hey could i get you to warm up my car it snowed last night? Hey my car is out of gas?WTF is this world coming to when your best friend in the world the one you married treats you like this.Would it really take much of them to keep you happy.Why is it so important to them that they can't offer a little pleasure to the one they married.Its a shame that we have to work one off by hand when your laying next to a warm body that could make you feel bettter?
You can look at this from both sides I guess. One would be IF every thing in your marriage is fine he probably just enjoys getting himself off from time to time OR he's sex starved and does it for that reason. If it bothers you that he's doing it early in the morning while your trying to sleep in or getting some last minutes sleep before work and he's waking you up then I don't think its too bad to tell him to do it in another room, or atleast somewhere where he's not making the whole bed shake to his furious masturbation. However, if its at the right occasion then you could come to his aid and join in, ofcourse. Posted via Mobile Device
I had a buddy of mine that I worked with may years ago. I used to drive by his house and pick him up for work and I used to go in and have a cup of coffee before we took off.
Well, one morning I go in and there's a blanket and pillow on the couch. I gave him a look and he said, " I'll tell you in the car." We finish our coffee and off to work. He tells me that one morning he woke up early and tried to get some from his wife. She turned him down and he rolled over and started to rub one out. She woke up and said, " WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING!" He told her that he was rubbing one out. She got up in disguest.
The next week; same thing happened. She said no and he started to masterbate. She then said, " Can you not shake the bed I'm trying to sleep here!" This pissed him off. So, he continued to do his thing and RIGHT at the moment he was going to orgasim, he rolled over and spooned her.....it got everywhere.
She proceeded to smack the sh*t out of him and thus explains the pillow and blanket on the couch.
Later he told me he was on that couch for a good month. 15 years later, they're still married.
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