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I havent done this with my wife and cant bring it up as I am embarrased
Does anyone else feel bad or "dirty" over their fantasies and is it normal to feel this way ? I suppose mine are not as bad as some but I still feel so very guilty
its tough to do. the risk that it would be met with rejection and or mockery is there. i only brought up one of mine with my wife once, and she laughed (its nothing too far out of line), so thats it, no more.
You are right I know I shouldnt feel guilty not sure how to bring subject up
I don't think you should feel guilty about this fantasy. Just broach the subject of fantasies, and see what hers are. Then when she asks about yours (or when you talk about yours), just start off with saying that you are a bit shy about this but.... and just say it.
If she's uncomfortable with anything just calmly and lovingly figure out why. Just treat the whole thing with love, and if it's meant to be she'll say yes.
some of my fantasies are pretty damn dark - there is a difference between a fantasy you would be happy to play out and others that should be locked in a box forever heh heh
this is a pretty easy one to broach I think, talk about it first and see how she feels, you have to get past the embarrassment or feeling like a pr*t!
You need to man up. She may laugh, she may say no, but if you make it clear it is all in good fun and just want to try it out, I think you'll be successful. It may take you several attempts before you get a yes though, so be strong and vulnerable to her. Combine it with telling her that you want to do this WITH HER because while other men may fantasize about other women, she is your fantasy and you want to see her in these different roles with you. How can she really say no to that?
Its not weird. My hubby told me about his fantasy when we were discussing sex one day. So I know what he wants to do and I have kept an open mind about it but I'm still deciding if I would be comfortable and brave enough to do it or not. So, when you tell her I'm sure she will consider it for a bit before deciding. You can even give her the option to think it over as long as she wants. That's what my hubby did anyway lol. Posted via Mobile Device
Thanks all bit new to all this but must tell her and yes I must "man up"
Approach the subject carefully is the best approach I had a previous girlfriend years ago who actually told me she wanted to be tied up and gagged !! what a turn on that was !!
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