05-14-2012, 12:30 AM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: United States
| | Re: Sex every day is ruining my sex life
Bravo for trying the experiment. A couple things are true.
At MINIMUM you need to have a couple nights a week you can place a black towel on the doorknob. Means - no sex tonight. The rules are simple: On those nights sex is off the table and you are under no expectation to explain or justify WHY. You just have veto those nights - full stop.
I think it is fair to tell him that you realize the other extreme - sex once a month - would make him miserable and you have no desire to cause him to feel that badly. However daily for you, is similar to monthly for him. Intense pressure - kills much of the joy.
With that said - if you do end up trying out a 5/week routine there need to be ground rules. If there are specific things you like, and he isn't good about doing them: get blunt. Tell him that at least 2 nights a week, it needs to be about her and she can give you better guidance as to what feels bee
Originally Posted by wifewifewife
At my husband's request, I agreed to start having sex every day instead of two or three times a week. I was enjoying our sex life the way it was. Now that we are having sex every day, it seems like a chore. It's no longer spontaneous, and it's just less exciting and fun. He loves it, and he seems happier, so I haven't said anything, but I'm getting to where I'd just rather be single than what we have now.