Dear All - forgive me in advance, but I have to let off steam somewhere!!
Back ground...married 17 years. Sex was 2-3 times a week until children came along....once we had 2 children my wife went off sex. We now go through the motions of sex maybe once a month.
I usually go to bed at about 2245-2300hrs, my wife follows anything from 1-3 hours later. She is a TV addict.
Last night we watched a documentary for an hour. She sat on the floor between my legs...for the whole hour I was massaging her shoulders, neck, head etc. She didnt asked me to...I just...did it.
When the documentary ended (2250) I said that I was going to bed....She said 'I'll join you in 5 minutes'...
Of course, being a sex starved male, thought 'Wahay!'...I'm gonna get laid tonight!
So I went to the bedroom, had a shower etc and got into bed. At midnight, my wife hadn't 'joined me' so I turned my light out and went to sleep.
I was vaguely aware of her coming in just after 0100hrs (I'm a light sleeper) - TWO hours after 'I'll join you in 5 minutes'!
She got into bed and slept.
This morning she said 'I was going to offer you a bonk last night but YOU were asleep'.
'I'm afraid I gave up waiting for you at midnight'...
'There was an interesting film on TV'.
Nice to know that television is more important than me.
The thing is, she was going to offer me sex, but the reason she didnt and I didnt get laid was because *I* was asleep. My fault.
Just as she kisses me good-bye and says 'pity you are going, I feel so horny'....just as I am about to get into the taxi to go to the airport on a business trip.
Same thing...she offers, I decline ('Excuse me Mr Taxi driver, can you wait 10 minutes whilst I go and have sex with my wife?'...hahahaha!) = my fault.
So the lack of sex in our marriage is my
All her behavoiur does is breed more resentment, bitterness, anger etc.
Its a vicious circle....and she doesnt give a flying f@ck.
Thanks for 'listening'...I feel a little better!